Kelli Charmae wrote:

Edwardv wrote:

yea I think I will take the girlfriend lol : )

Good luck with your photo session and career as a model.

thanks good luck on your career as well : ) [/quo


thanks and good luck to you as well : )

Kelli Charmae wrote:
yea I think I will take the girlfriend lol : )

Wouldn't it be easier just to ask each individual photographer before the shoot how they feel about escorts?

Mr Jay wrote:
I would have to say it depends on the ego of the photographer.  To some extent, if a boyfriend comes to the shoot its because he at some point does want to be supportive of the model.  However, he may still have concerns about the handling and treatment the model receives. 

If the photographer conducts his business accordingly and doesn't have 15 oil boys running around claming to be working all should be well.  If the photographer is a clown and acting inappropriately then he deserves to have the boyfriend crack his head open.

It's all about integrity.

I speak from being a boyfriend that has a GF model and also being a photographer.

lol, wow, so you have experience from both sides, as well as a very good point there!

Mr Jay wrote:
I would have to say it depends on the ego of the photographer.  To some extent, if a boyfriend comes to the shoot its because he at some point does want to be supportive of the model.  However, he may still have concerns about the handling and treatment the model receives. 

If the photographer conducts his business accordingly and doesn't have 15 oil boys running around claming to be working all should be well.  If the photographer is a clown and acting inappropriately then he deserves to have the boyfriend crack his head open.

It's all about integrity.

I speak from being a boyfriend that has a GF model and also being a photographer.

The key word in this reply is "SHOULD". Should doesn't necessarily mean it will.

markcomp wrote:

Wouldn't it be easier just to ask each individual photographer before the shoot how they feel about escorts?

yes, this is very true, but to also get input from people who have experienced these situations is nice too! : )

markcomp wrote:
Wouldn't it be easier just to ask each individual photographer before the shoot how they feel about escorts?

Kelli Charmae wrote:
yes, this is very true, but to also get input from people who have experienced these situations is nice too! : )

I support escorts, boyfriends are welcome and have helped me with shoots, so far.

Craig Thomson wrote:

markcomp wrote:
Wouldn't it be easier just to ask each individual photographer before the shoot how they feel about escorts?

I support escorts, boyfriends are welcome and have helped me with shoots, so far.

yea, I think mine should some help, as comfortable as I am around him!

Kelli Charmae wrote:
I was just wondering what everyone's perception is on boyfriends coming to photoshoots???  good or bad?

bad.

leave 'em home.

Blackeyeliner Photos wrote:
If the boyfriend is a good boyfriend, who supports you and isn't a jerk, then why the hell not. And on the other hand, if a boyfriend is such a jackass, then why have him as a boyfriend?

that is so true!!!

Daniela V wrote:

bad.

leave 'em home.

: )  have you had one go with you before?

Mr Jay wrote:
I would have to say it depends on the ego of the photographer.  To some extent, if a boyfriend comes to the shoot its because he at some point does want to be supportive of the model.  However, he may still have concerns about the handling and treatment the model receives. 

If the photographer conducts his business accordingly and doesn't have 15 oil boys running around claming to be working all should be well.  If the photographer is a clown and acting inappropriately then he deserves to have the boyfriend crack his head open.

It's all about integrity.

I speak from being a boyfriend that has a GF model and also being a photographer.

I'd have to agree. I sometimes go with some of the models I know, I guess we both have an advantage  over a someone not involved in the industrie in that we know what's suppose to happen and when someone is crossing the line.  Nothing has ever happened when I've been there but there have been a couple of times that we decided that it was a very idea that I was by the photogs behavour afterward.

ERNIE CHAN wrote:
Agency models that I have work with never bring their boyfriends-did a shoot this week with a potential model who did not want to bring her boyfriend or any other escort because she was comfortable and trusted working with me.

wow that is great that you can be trusted like that : )

Mr Jay wrote:
I would have to say it depends on the ego of the photographer.  To some extent, if a boyfriend comes to the shoot its because he at some point does want to be supportive of the model.  However, he may still have concerns about the handling and treatment the model receives. 

"Egos can be very bad it is best to leave them locked up in a safe forever.  If a model intends to bring her boyfriend it would be nice that the photographer should be able to meet him before the photo session.  This way the ice can be broken even then there may be issues"

If the photographer conducts his business accordingly and doesn't have 15 oil boys running around claming to be working all should be well.  If the photographer is a clown and acting inappropriately then he deserves to have the boyfriend crack his head open.

"There should be the director/client, assistant, stylist and photographer on the set. I have certain rules that I follow with very photo session.  And for the pass 35 years I have not have any problems with models; with boyfriends yes and husbands can be extremely explosive when they say I support my wife as model and really don't mean it and don't like the poses."
 
It's all about integrity.

"Yes it is."


I speak from being a boyfriend that has a GF model and also being a photographer.

"About relationships; Dec 2006 I will be married for 30 years.  And before I got married I told my future wife, "I still wanted to photograph nude models."  Her response was, "ok, but if I catch or hear of you screwing around, I will cut your balls off and put them on a silver platter."  For me that trust with my wife will never be broken.  Good luck with your girlfriend"

Kelli Charmae wrote:
lol, no he hasn't thought like that but I don't want him too, he probably won't though!  but if he does I will just tell him he needs to get rid of his trust issues, : )

If this becomes a problem, just tell him that most photographers are fat, hairy, smelly, old, bald men with raunchy breath. If he's still jealous, say WTF?!

Kelli Charmae wrote:
: )  have you had one go with you before?

I say to leave them home because it's unprofessional. What do you want your bf there for?

edit: if you're that concerned about your safety hire a MUA.

John Jebbia wrote:

If this becomes a problem, just tell him that most photographers are fat, hairy, smelly, old, bald men with raunchy breath. If he's still jealous, say WTF?!

ha ha ha lmao : ) I love it!

Kelley Mantia wrote:
I don't go to shoots w/out him!  It's very important for your personal safety.  Just make sure he's mature and doesn't get in the way.

awww that is so sweet : ) I love that!

John Jebbia wrote:

If this becomes a problem, just tell him that most photographers are fat, hairy, smelly, old, bald men with raunchy breath. If he's still jealous, say WTF?!

Speak for yourself John, I'm not old.

Daniela V wrote:

I say to leave them home because it's unprofessional. What do you want your bf there for?

edit: if you're that concerned about your safety hire a MUA.

that is true too, but just for the experience hopefully the support as well!

Kelli Charmae wrote:

awww that is so sweet : ) I love that!

safety shmafety.

bring a loaded gun.

or....HIRE A MUA. There's your escort, and your pictures will take a step up. Ta-da.

model7299 wrote:
It seems that people have different reasons for not wanting boyfriends to come to shoots.  Personally, I don't think I would bring my boyfriend to a shoot.  Reasons vary, but can be: the photographer doesn't allow escorts, boyfriends can be jealous, a boyfriend can pressure you to do a photo you're not into, or a boyfriend can make you feel nervous.  Someone made a post once about how she wanted her photos from a photographer she worked with and how she couldn't understand why she wasn't going to get them, even though her boyfriend punched him.

If you want an escort, bring a friend who won't interfere, but I wouldn't recommend a boyfriend from all the stories I've heard here.

lol great point yea I like the friend idea too!

Kelli Charmae wrote:
that is true too, but just for the experience hopefully the support as well!

Experience? Experienced models don't bring their boyfriends. of course, now hundreds will jump on here and tell me otherwise.

Support? This isn't a football game, it's a photo shoot. You wouldn't bring your boyfriend to your job for support, and a shoot should be treated as same: your job.

Daniela V wrote:

safety shmafety.

bring a loaded gun.

or....HIRE A MUA. There's your escort, and your pictures will take a step up. Ta-da.

Sounds good to me.  But bring a 44 mag.  We will definitly get the point or feel the lead.

LarryB wrote:
Some don't mind an escort, but won't allow a boyfriend or "significant other" because boyfriends have a way of turning jealous and ruining shoots (or punching the photog in the face for saying the model looks "hot").

That's what I was referring to in my previous post lol

model7299 wrote:
That's what I was referring to in my previous post lol

I really wish the mods would unzone that thread and put it in the pit. That was a fun thread.

warrenlee wrote:
-ive never had a bad experience with a models or husbaand boyfirend at any of my shoots, and dont have any problem if a model wants to bring friends, i didnt realize it was such an issue. in my opinion more people = more fun! especially as there is usually alot of waiting around between set, wardrobe, makeup, hair , lighting changes.. well i guess its different for everyone...but thats my 2 cents.

thanks wow...keep up the good work!

Daniela V wrote:

safety shmafety.

bring a loaded gun.

or....HIRE A MUA. There's your escort, and your pictures will take a step up. Ta-da.

gun, what..lol no way no gun here, I got to much of the Lord to carry around a killing machine ... : )  I'll stick with your MUA idea

Kelli Charmae wrote:

gun, what..lol no way no gun here, I got to much of the Lord to carry around a killing machine ... : )  I'll stick with your MUA idea

Kelli Charmae wrote:
I was just wondering what everyone's perception is on boyfriends coming to photoshoots???  good or bad?

I have had some great shoots with boyfriends present, some help with lights and others have great ideas for poses which a lot of photographers would not think to ask>

Daniela V wrote:
Democrat. Doesn't own a gun and never will.

Was kidding.

good lol : )

liljjunior wrote:

I have had some great shoots with boyfriends present, some help with lights and others have great ideas for poses which a lot of photographers would not think to ask>

that is awesome, yea it really just depends on the photographer and the bf

John Jebbia wrote:
Kelli,
Here's the deal. You'll really be more respected as a professional if you didn't bring people to your photoshoots. I think that the reason a lot of models choose the escort route is because it's a lot easier than doing their due dillegence (sp? I just woke up..) and checking out who you're working with. I can't tell you how many models I've shot with who reveal to me that they never checked my references. And I have a strict "no escort" policy.

If you're not satisfied with just checking references and still concerned about safety, then have someone drop you off at a shoot, walk you to the door, shake hands with the photographer and leave.

Criminals don't like witnesses. If your witness is there at the shoot with you, then the photographer can just put your escort out of commission and have his way. If your witness is with you and get's bopped on the head or something then you have no outs left.

On the other hand, if your escort is on the outside, should things go awry he can easily lead the police to where you are and tell them who you were with. Criminals don't like that possibility.

thanks alot for your input! : )