Photographer
Mike Garland
Posts: 11
Fulton, Illinois, US
Sorry to say i'm one of the huggers, my wife goes on the shoots with me and it is are way of saying thanks for a great shoot and a job well done. Mike Garland
Photographer
Justin
Posts: 22389
Fort Collins, Colorado, US
I don't like to hug. Therefore, I'm reading, I'm uptight. See, I don't care what other people do. They can hug, kiss, handshake, grope, grind, air-kiss, lip-kiss, cheek-kiss, butt-kiss, butt-slap, high-five, boot-lick, hickey-generate - I don't care. I promise not to judge you on your preferred gesture of friendship or business acquaintanceship. For me, it's a matter of business decorum and personal space. So I don't initiate hugs. To my way of thinking, I'm really uptight if I'm worried about what others do. And I don't worry. But it seems that others want to place labels on me because I don't hug, or maybe if I hug in a style that's not quite right. Now, to me, that's uptight.
Photographer
Troy Alton Photography
Posts: 43
Ringgold, Georgia, US
Ive never even considered hugging a model. Photo shoots are a business transaction and I just think you need to conduct yourself in that manner at all times.
Photographer
studio L
Posts: 1775
Oakland, California, US
Justin wrote: I don't like to hug. Therefore, I'm reading, I'm uptight. See, I don't care what other people do. They can hug, kiss, handshake, grope, grind, air-kiss, lip-kiss, cheek-kiss, butt-kiss, butt-slap, high-five, boot-lick, hickey-generate - I don't care. I promise not to judge you on your preferred gesture of friendship or business acquaintanceship. For me, it's a matter of business decorum and personal space. So I don't initiate hugs. To my way of thinking, I'm really uptight if I'm worried about what others do. And I don't worry. But it seems that others want to place labels on me because I don't hug, or maybe if I hug in a style that's not quite right. Now, to me, that's uptight. Precisely. Well said.
Photographer
SLE Photography
Posts: 68937
Orlando, Florida, US
SLE Photography wrote: It's not gratitude,they're light headed from you leaving them hanging upside down for so long. Melvin Moten Jr wrote:
Oh sure. Threaten me with a good time. (uh, I'm the yellow one & you're the blue one, right?? )
Model
MelissaLynnette LaDiva
Posts: 50816
Leawood, Kansas, US
UnoMundo Photography wrote: Melissa has issues. She still wets the bed, so dont expect emotional warmth. I am hugging Iris before the shoot ! I assure you I do not wet the bed. And why do I have issues because I don't expect to be hugged everytime I do a shoot?
Photographer
IrisSwope
Posts: 14857
Dallas, Texas, US
Melissa Lynnette wrote:
I assure you I do not wet the bed. And why do I have issues because I don't expect to be hugged everytime I do a shoot? They're just hugging me hoping that I'll grope them!
Photographer
Mickle Design Werks
Posts: 5967
Washington, District of Columbia, US
Iris Swope wrote:
They're just hugging me hoping that I'll grope them! Me likey grope!
Photographer
tripstar
Posts: 87
Cincinnati, Ohio, US
Melissa Lynnette wrote: Maybe this only happens to me, but what is up with photographers hugging me after a shoot that goes well? My boss doesn't hug me when he lands a big important client. My old boss never hugged me when.....oh wait, she did, but she was my aunt. Ok, bad example. But what I'm wondering is: How many photographers are huggers? Usually its the model that intiates hugs. I'm not a good person to ask. I'm friends with a lot of my models and they are usually the ones that initiate handshakes, hugs, punches in the arm, slaps on the back... etc... If you don't want to be hugged just stick out your hand. If the photogrpaher gets upset then that's their problem. If you don't do something about it then its yours.
Model
MelissaLynnette LaDiva
Posts: 50816
Leawood, Kansas, US
Mike Garland wrote: Sorry to say i'm one of the huggers, my wife goes on the shoots with me and it is are way of saying thanks for a great shoot and a job well done. Mike Garland Couldn't you just buy me a NutriGrain bar? Or get my pics to me in a timely fashion? Not saying you wouldn't normally, but unless you are my mother, boyfriend or best friend, I'm not big on the hugging. Maybe I should have been raised in a more touchy feely home.
Photographer
oldguysrule
Posts: 6129
studio L wrote:
and there's the rub....it ain't about you see, it's about the other person...to fail to take the other person's comfort zone into the equation is just, well, so american! and i don't care what country you are in, or how old you are (smile) wow that's a bizarre interpretation of my post! my hugs are demonstration of my appreciation for and recognition of the huge gift that was given. yep its about me in that i am responsible for the success (or failure) of the shoot. if a model gave me nothing, he/she did not do their job. if he/she gave me everything, they made it hard for me to fuck it up. you bet they will get a hug from me for that, and can bet they won't be rehired if they do not. get used to it. on the set it is ALWAYS about the photographer. there is no choice. It is his/her set, his/her responsibility, his/her client that must be satisfied, and his/her payroll that must be met. oh well guess i'll go back to making sexual advances on my subjects. *rolls eyes and leaves the room, leaving the sticks firmly inserted between the tightly clenched cheeks.
Photographer
Curt at photoworks
Posts: 31812
Riverside, California, US
UnoMundo Photography wrote: Melissa has issues. She still wets the bed, ... Hey, this thread is about hugging, not some kind of fetish!
Photographer
Gems of Nature in N Atl
Posts: 1334
North Atlanta, Georgia, US
Ah, yea I hug if I feel like it........ depends on the chemistry.... always felt it was just a way of saying " nice going", enjoyed working with you, or something... so what if the model walks in and gives the photographer a hug?? Hugs are innocent unless zippers start flyin!! cant believe what I do when I'm bored and waiting on images to upload...
Photographer
Mickle Design Werks
Posts: 5967
Washington, District of Columbia, US
Melissa Lynnette wrote: Couldn't you just buy me a NutriGrain bar? Or get my pics to me in a timely fashion? Not saying you wouldn't normally, but unless you are my mother, boyfriend or best friend, I'm not big on the hugging. Maybe I should have been raised in a more touchy feely home. For you Melissa, this rap song seems to capure your feelings to a degree...lol: Aceyalone "Five Feet" One Two, One Two You got the levels straight? lets do my thing Talking shit while he was rollin' his weed my niger hit him in the face he didn't know that disrespect would lead to such a serious case. if you knew how to read the situation you would stay your his place. if there is one thing that everyone one needs is their god damn space let me talk about it as I rock it Give me five feet, all around the world, I don't want no body touching me unless it's my girls I give a pound of hugs of love some are like that don't be tapping my shoulders or patting me on the back or pullin' my arm checkin my size I'm liable to do you harm, my temple is my prize I'm wise and on the really I ain't too touchy feely if you put your hands up on me, I might just smack you silly there a billion people touch somebody else, touch yourself I'll be sure to get at you if I need your help but until then, maybe when I'm dead, or still but to touch you without touchin' you is one of my gifts talking shit while she was drunk at the bar, my homey slapped her in the face she didn't know that disrespect would lead to such a serious case if she knew how to read the situation she would stay in her place if it's one thing that everyone needs is their god damn space why you all up up under me, screamin in my ear why you tryin to talk over the music when you know we barely can hear why you tuggin on my coat tail grabbin on my sleeve yo cover your mouth when you cough around me don't touch me when you sneeze I don't like disease, I don't want to give you what I've got yo hit the weed, but what I don't need is someone always in my spot stadin when I'm standing, breathin down my neck yo have some respect I guess you think that water ain't wet just back the back the fuck up, no I ain't stuck up I just don't want to hear your moans and groans and hick-ups and stuff being recorded with the tape recorders all in my grill but touchin you without touchin you is one of my skills talkin shit while he was up at the mic. somebody hit him in the face he didn't know that disrespect would lead to such a serious case if he knew how to read the situation he would stay in his place if there is one thing that everyone needs is there goddamn space let me talk about it as I rock it now I'm a draw the lines on the ground and show you my squares at least arms distance so stand over there hey love you know I miss you and how we embrace, but I let you know if I wanna kiss you or see how you taste yo we all got issues we need to face, so don't think I'm tryin' to diss you when I tell you the case in case you wondering it's just like that I practice telepathy I already know what you're goona say before you step to me I hate crowded elevators and downtown brush, pack trains, crazy-ass people on the bus, sometimes roll blush, lookin' so called crush, but I'd rather teleport through space so ya'll can bite my dust use body language baby, I can dig that, but homey you need to kick back and relax on the act the bottom line is don't invade no body's own or maybe your own, sincerely aceyalone talking shit while he was walking the street, somebody shot him in the face he didn't know that disrespect would lead to such a serious case, if you knew how to read the situation you would stay in your place if there is one thing that every one needs is their goddamn space give me five feet all around the world to each his own
Photographer
oldguysrule
Posts: 6129
studio L wrote: And from your premise's logical extension-from now on I am going to have 3 children with every model I shoot, and their mother's as well. Spread the love baby.... dude you are scaring me. will you not hug your child for fear of impregnating them? talk about uptight!
Model
Adrienne Aurora
Posts: 2745
Atlanta, Georgia, US
You need to worry when they want a naked hug. (model being naked for the smart asses)
Photographer
tripstar
Posts: 87
Cincinnati, Ohio, US
Melissa Lynnette wrote: Couldn't you just buy me a NutriGrain bar? Or get my pics to me in a timely fashion? Not saying you wouldn't normally, but unless you are my mother, boyfriend or best friend, I'm not big on the hugging. Maybe I should have been raised in a more touchy feely home. Is that like a TFNGB? No harm in the way you were raised or your preferences about being hugged or not. Just be quick on the draw and stick your hand out for a handshake after a shoot. Hopefully the photogs will get the message. You could always throw in the casual comment towards the end of the shoot that you're almost out of the contagious phase of some hard to pronounce virus that is only passed by touching that causes impotence and baldness in men.
Photographer
tripstar
Posts: 87
Cincinnati, Ohio, US
Adrienne Aurora wrote: You need to worry when they want a naked hug. (model being naked for the smart asses) Worse yet when the photographer wants to be naked too! Or instead.
Model
MelissaLynnette LaDiva
Posts: 50816
Leawood, Kansas, US
Mickle Design Werks wrote:
For you Melissa, this rap song seems to capure your feelings to a degree...lol: Aceyalone "Five Feet" One Two, One Two You got the levels straight? lets do my thing Talking shit while he was rollin' his weed my niger hit him in the face he didn't know that disrespect would lead to such a serious case. if you knew how to read the situation you would stay your his place. if there is one thing that everyone one needs is their god damn space let me talk about it as I rock it Give me five feet, all around the world, I don't want no body touching me unless it's my girls I give a pound of hugs of love some are like that don't be tapping my shoulders or patting me on the back or pullin' my arm checkin my size I'm liable to do you harm, my temple is my prize I'm wise and on the really I ain't too touchy feely if you put your hands up on me, I might just smack you silly there a billion people touch somebody else, touch yourself I'll be sure to get at you if I need your help but until then, maybe when I'm dead, or still but to touch you without touchin' you is one of my gifts talking shit while she was drunk at the bar, my homey slapped her in the face she didn't know that disrespect would lead to such a serious case if she knew how to read the situation she would stay in her place if it's one thing that everyone needs is their god damn space why you all up up under me, screamin in my ear why you tryin to talk over the music when you know we barely can hear why you tuggin on my coat tail grabbin on my sleeve yo cover your mouth when you cough around me don't touch me when you sneeze I don't like disease, I don't want to give you what I've got yo hit the weed, but what I don't need is someone always in my spot stadin when I'm standing, breathin down my neck yo have some respect I guess you think that water ain't wet just back the back the fuck up, no I ain't stuck up I just don't want to hear your moans and groans and hick-ups and stuff being recorded with the tape recorders all in my grill but touchin you without touchin you is one of my skills talkin shit while he was up at the mic. somebody hit him in the face he didn't know that disrespect would lead to such a serious case if he knew how to read the situation he would stay in his place if there is one thing that everyone needs is there goddamn space let me talk about it as I rock it now I'm a draw the lines on the ground and show you my squares at least arms distance so stand over there hey love you know I miss you and how we embrace, but I let you know if I wanna kiss you or see how you taste yo we all got issues we need to face, so don't think I'm tryin' to diss you when I tell you the case in case you wondering it's just like that I practice telepathy I already know what you're goona say before you step to me I hate crowded elevators and downtown brush, pack trains, crazy-ass people on the bus, sometimes roll blush, lookin' so called crush, but I'd rather teleport through space so ya'll can bite my dust use body language baby, I can dig that, but homey you need to kick back and relax on the act the bottom line is don't invade no body's own or maybe your own, sincerely aceyalone talking shit while he was walking the street, somebody shot him in the face he didn't know that disrespect would lead to such a serious case, if you knew how to read the situation you would stay in your place if there is one thing that every one needs is their goddamn space give me five feet all around the world to each his own LOL. But seriously, I think this thread got out of hand. I'm not anti hug. I just keep getting caught off guard and was curious about how common this was. I didn't think it was anything perverted. I'm not uptight because I don't want every photographer I shoot with wrapping his arms around me because he's glad he did his job right. Appreciation is best shown with cash.......or healthy snack bars.
Model
MelissaLynnette LaDiva
Posts: 50816
Leawood, Kansas, US
tripstar wrote:
Is that like a TFNGB? No harm in the way you were raised or your preferences about being hugged or not. Just be quick on the draw and stick your hand out for a handshake after a shoot. Hopefully the photogs will get the message. You could always throw in the casual comment towards the end of the shoot that you're almost out of the contagious phase of some hard to pronounce virus that is only passed by touching that causes impotence and baldness in men. I'll keep that in mind. Cough a bit and stick out hand. Should I cough in my hand first?
Photographer
Artistic Fusion Photo
Posts: 138
Oswego, Illinois, US
HUGS??? come on people. We belong to this wonderful thing called "The Human Race". Those of us who happen to be affectionate people happen to think that a hug is the ultimate expression of appreciation and love. And is more personal than a handshake or pat on the back. For those who have personal space issues or take issue with huggers must not have been hugged enough as children. Go to the person nearest you right now and give them a hug. Now, doesn't that feel better. You can join the National Association of Huggers at www.nah.com (kidding) HUG IT OUT, PEOPLE!!!!
Photographer
Curt at photoworks
Posts: 31812
Riverside, California, US
Melissa Lynnette wrote: Couldn't you just buy me a NutriGrain bar? Or get my pics to me in a timely fashion? Not saying you wouldn't normally, but unless you are my mother, boyfriend or best friend, I'm not big on the hugging. Maybe I should have been raised in a more touchy feely home. Melissa - I don't have a NutriGrain bar, but I have something for you..... Look what you got started!!
Photographer
lightsandshadow
Posts: 2200
New York, New York, US
I'm a hugger but I wouldn't initiate a hug after a shoot. A hand shake is good enough along with a big smile. I wouldn't push away a hugger though. I'm used to different cultures/people. I know everyone has a different comfort level with such things.
Model
MelissaLynnette LaDiva
Posts: 50816
Leawood, Kansas, US
Curt Burgess wrote:
Melissa - I don't have a NutriGrain bar, but I have something for you..... Look what you got started!! Oh Curt! You know you're the only photographer I'd ever like to hug!
Photographer
shotbytim
Posts: 1040
Baton Rouge, Louisiana, US
Depends; most models are new acquaintences and we're all business, but a couple have become good friends and we hug.
Photographer
bman
Posts: 1126
Hollywood, Alabama, US
no real rule here..... I don't make it a habit. Usually I wait for the model to instigate.
Model
Jessica B.
Posts: 46
Los Angeles, California, US
I'm not a hugger by nature, so when a photographer I don't know leans in for a hug I feel weird and offer my hand for a hand shake instead.
Photographer
Yerkes Photography
Posts: 459
Kingston, New York, US
i'm a hugger - when i meet you and when we shoot ... tell you why .... first .. a hug is a sign of friendship ... and if you and i are working together ... i want you to feel like im your friend , and i think it eases the model and myself ... second ... i'm not a hippie or anything , but i think it helps creativity ... mainly because of the comfort level ... i dont want to hug you for any other reason ... i'm happily married , and no matter how beauiful you are ... you cant compare to my wife and family ... nothing personal ...
Photographer
studio L
Posts: 1775
Oakland, California, US
oldguysrule wrote:
wow that's a bizarre interpretation of my post! my hugs are demonstration of my appreciation for and recognition of the huge gift that was given. yep its about me in that i am responsible for the success (or failure) of the shoot. if a model gave me nothing, he/she did not do their job. if he/she gave me everything, they made it hard for me to fuck it up. you bet they will get a hug from me for that, and can bet they won't be rehired if they do not. get used to it. on the set it is ALWAYS about the photographer. there is no choice. It is his/her set, his/her responsibility, his/her client that must be satisfied, and his/her payroll that must be met. oh well guess i'll go back to making sexual advances on my subjects. *rolls eyes and leaves the room, leaving the sticks firmly inserted between the tightly clenched cheeks. bizarre indeed sir old cheeks. me "get used to it"? ha! you'll "just have to get used to" (arrogant myopic stupidity added for graphic sarcastic emphasis only btw) the fact that not everyone wants YOU in their personal space-regardless of whether it's 'your world' or not king jimmy sir. it's always about the photographer indeed! ewwwwwwww, the arrogance of THAT is sticking to my shoe. (no wonder you live out of a suitcase, hee hee) well we can agree to disagree-you won't be hugging me anytime soon old man, and thank heavens for that small favor. you really want to show someone your sincere appreciation and have them understand it unequivocally? (rhetorical question of the day) try doing it in a way that THEY feel comfortable with. that is human r-e-s-p-e-c-t. you ought to be old enough to know what that is. and what it really means. the sun just does not revolve around you, no matter the size of your king jimmy photographer's ego, 'neh?
Photographer
studio L
Posts: 1775
Oakland, California, US
oldguysrule wrote:
dude you are scaring me. will you not hug your child for fear of impregnating them? talk about uptight! gee, you are the master of off topic reification aren't you.
Model
MelissaLynnette LaDiva
Posts: 50816
Leawood, Kansas, US
To oldguysrule and studio L: Boys, boys, put those things away. You'll poke somebody's eye out. Whoa nelly!!
Photographer
ADG Photography
Posts: 544
Calhoun, Georgia, US
About half of the models I have worked with initiated hugs after the shoot. Of the ones I have shot with more than once or twice, nearly all of them hug. I think many women just like to do that. I am certainly not going to complain. But I would never initiate a hug unless a friendship had developed. It just seems more natural in the model-photographer relationship that the model be the one to okay ANY touching beyond a handshake and better still to have her initiate it.
Photographer
studio L
Posts: 1775
Oakland, California, US
Melissa Lynnette wrote: To oldguysrule and studio L: Boys, boys, put those things away. You'll poke somebody's eye out. Whoa nelly!! sniff, ok mom...BUT HE STARTED IT! (smile)
Model
Tina Ginger
Posts: 445
Magnolia, Arkansas, US
I hug,unless the photographer is weird...LOL It's just what friends do,and I usually don't shoot with anyone who is not a friend.
Wardrobe Stylist
stylist man
Posts: 34382
New York, New York, US
Just Shoot Me Photograp wrote:
That would be a cool t-shirt. Tina G. What about stylists?
Photographer
Dave Gibson
Posts: 370
Altoona, Pennsylvania, US
I always feel awkward about initiating it because I don't want to make the model feel uncomfortable, even after the shoot has concluded. But they are always gratefully accepted, every model that I have had the pleasure to shoot with has proven to be an exceptional lady.
Photographer
Ought To Be Shot
Posts: 1887
Saint John, New Brunswick, Canada
Hugging! Pfffft... I prefer to plant one right on 'em.
Photographer
nevar
Posts: 14670
Fort Smith, Arkansas, US
as a rule I am usually very tactile. I hug my friends, both male and female. It's the way that I have been brought up, and because I have been taught that that sort of touching is appropriate in almost every case... I should be labled a hugger. I don't hug everyone.... some people seem a little stand offish, and for those I give them their space.... I know personal space issues myself being a claustrophobic, so I try to read a person the best I can. My shoots tend to be very intimate; my muses almost always find some therepy in shooting with me; it is almost always the case that they open up to me and we become friends. It's reflective I think in a lot of my work that I try to get to know the hearts of the people who inspire me.... and thus there is almost always a close personal connection that continues even after the shoot is over. oh yeah, and i hugged the shit out of shyly; she is perhaps one of the best huggers I have ever had the pleasure of hugging; she makes you feel welcome and enjoyed and safe and peaceful.... I love my shyly very much. (smile)
Photographer
R Michael Walker
Posts: 11987
Costa Mesa, California, US
BIG hugger here. But then I try and find a muse not a model and personality is more important than looks AND the person has just been naked for several hours so it's a different situation??? Mike
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