Curt Burgess wrote:
DAMN!!



You're harshing my mellow!

Iris Swope wrote:
harshing my mellow???????????

this just so makes me want to hug you!

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From urbandictionary.com...

1. When someone takes away from your high, or tries to be cool by fucking with you when you are buzzed. What happens when a nancy (see Nancy) brings down your elated feelings while high.

Dude, you're really harshin' my mellow.

2.    harshing my mellow   
   
Bringing down my good mood.

I didn't like her.. she was really harshing my mellow, man.
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Def 2 most appropriate, but we all respect that it evolved from Def #1

Iris Swope wrote:
I'm gonna go start a "Prettiest Boys on MM" thread. actually someone else should start it, so it's not so obvious

Iris  - did you mean start a "Prettiest Boys on MM and their evil escorts" thread?



Just wondering...

Curt Burgess wrote:
Iris  - did you mean start a "Prettiest Boys on MM and their evil escorts" thread?



Just wondering...


Whoops! Almost forgot!

No, no escorts...we can make perv jokes about them once we get the thread going though

Kinda like the "I'd kill to shoot that Girl" thread

inese wrote:
So don't worry or wear a Tee with this slogan"Sorry I don't Hug after or before The Photoshoot" you'll be safe than:)

I once was going to make a sign that said "Please don't touch me" to set at my desk at work. Because this one dude always messed with me. Then I realised, it only bothered my because I was in such a foul mood.

inese wrote:
If your boss hugs you and he is a male that's sexual harassement . If you in a corporate enviroment. But you in a fashion biz now so hug hug, kiss,kiss (I mean air kisses)is a part of it,so lighten up, I am foreigner that was add for me  too I learned to except it as a part of a culture.I work with the photographer and he hugs his clients I hug mine we all hug:) No one is really doing it for some perverted reasons .So don't worry or wear a Tee with this slogan"Sorry I don't Hug after or before The Photoshoot" you'll be safe than:)

I like tee shirts. And I didn't start this cuz I think they're perverted, it just kept catching me off guard.  Random bursts of emotion aren't something I'm familiar with.

Curt Burgess wrote:
Melissa has inspired me!



Hugs for everyone!

Melissa Lynnette wrote:
Keep em coming Curt.  I might even start initiating hugs.

There is nothing as gratifying as having an impact on today's youth!

Melissa Lynnette wrote:

I like tee shirts. And I didn't start this cuz I think they're perverted, it just kept catching me off guard.  Random bursts of emotion aren't something I'm familiar with.

We've ran away with your thread....

But really, on reality shows, everytime they leave the room. They hug! or cry...

Melvin Moten Jr wrote:
I concur.  Usually the model is the initiator of the hug...But it may just be that they're so glad i finally untied them.

It's not gratitude,they're light headed from you leaving them hanging upside down for so long.

Anjel Britt wrote:
Well, Gary maybe reserved (that's his story) but he's a guy
lol
As an English woman I am used to hugs and kisses ... and actually  kisses on both cheeks more common than hugs - especially by the time you have spent time with people as a goodbye
One kiss on cheek is actually more intimate than 2
and in Europe 3 is friendly and 4 is very friendly  but 2 is just usual

as a goodbye id give 2
but not as a hello - unless you are friends

Yup this prob wouldnt happen if the business were banking
;-)
but where the job at hand is creative or involves any personal connection then by the end  . . . unless they are really prickly or weird

How do Europeans get anything done with all that kissing?  Goodness.  I'd melt.

Anjel Britt wrote:
Well, Gary maybe reserved (that's his story) but he's a guy
lol
As an English woman I am used to hugs and kisses ... and actually  kisses on both cheeks more common than hugs - especially by the time you have spent time with people as a goodbye
One kiss on cheek is actually more intimate than 2
and in Europe 3 is friendly and 4 is very friendly  but 2 is just usual

as a goodbye id give 2
but not as a hello - unless you are friends

Yup this prob wouldnt happen if the business were banking
;-)
but where the job at hand is creative or involves any personal connection then by the end  . . . unless they are really prickly or weird

Uh Oh... I might have done too many kisses or not enough hugs or I DON'T KNOW... does this come in an "Idiots Guide To European Hugs and Kisses" version? I would hate to mess up and accidentally propose to someone.

Melissa Lynnette wrote:
Maybe this only happens to me, but what is up with photographers hugging me after a shoot that goes well?  My boss doesn't hug me when he lands a big important client.  My old boss never hugged me when.....oh wait, she did, but she was my aunt.  Ok, bad example.  But what I'm wondering is:  How many photographers are huggers?

Agreed-at least in western (or is that eastern?) culture, it is damn creepy.

But you know what, models do it too.

Me? Hugging is intensely personal, I reserve it as a special display/gesture/experience for kittens (that don't seem to mind), my dog (who can't get enough), and an intimate female companion (who might slug me if I don't reciprocate).

As for the clowns that do it for the reasons your core might suspect-I say the public stocks for them!

Melissa Lynnette wrote:
Maybe this only happens to me, but what is up with photographers hugging me after a shoot that goes well?  My boss doesn't hug me when he lands a big important client.  My old boss never hugged me when.....oh wait, she did, but she was my aunt.  Ok, bad example.  But what I'm wondering is:  How many photographers are huggers?

Your boss doesn't hug you.... maybe it's only mine that does it then.... now you've got me seriously worried.

I'm sometimes a hugger, sometimes not depends on the model.

Stan Schutze wrote:
Licking, drooling and nibbling is different

You have all the luck!

bang bang photo wrote:

I think it's a California thing. When I lived in San Diego, I'd say well over half the models would give me a hug at the end of a shoot. Here In NY, it almost never happens.

True story-it is very california (ma home state).

Dee wrote:
No hugging for me...I like my personal space....LOL

Precisely.

Christopher Bush wrote:

it's not a california thing.  people hug like crazy in ny.

I think the poster was referring to males and females....not males and males. (smile)

theglorybox wrote:

Your boss doesn't hug you.... maybe it's only mine that does it then.... now you've got me seriously worried.

To be perfectly honest, my boss is hot and I wouldn't mind if he felt like hugging me.    But that's completely different.

Melissa Lynnette wrote:
Maybe this only happens to me, but what is up with photographers hugging me after a shoot that goes well?  My boss doesn't hug me when he lands a big important client.  My old boss never hugged me when.....oh wait, she did, but she was my aunt.  Ok, bad example.  But what I'm wondering is:  How many photographers are huggers?

Maybe it's just a mid-west thing but I always hug. To me it's a bit more personal than just a handshake...

Rich

oldguysrule wrote:
i hug everyone who's soul i have stolen.

if you spent the shoot worrying about what was showing or wasn't, worrying about looking good, etc and gave me nothing then you can count on a handshake or a wave goodbye from across the room and a DNU beside your name in the files.

oh... and please don't go to europe. they tend to really hug alot there, and they kiss people they just met on the cheek and shit. scary!. you're probably best off in asia or other touching-is-a-no-no cultures.

and there's the rub....it ain't about you see, it's about the other person...to fail to take the other person's comfort zone into the equation is just, well, so american!

and i don't care what country you are in, or how old you are (smile)

Melissa Lynnette wrote:

To be perfectly honest, my boss is hot and I wouldn't mind if he felt like hugging me.    But that's completely different.

precisely.

and that difference is key.

(btw-i just sent this to your boss, and he thanked me....you've received a promotion!)

Dee wrote:
No hugging for me...I like my personal space....LOL

Hey now! Hmm didnt I hug you? I'm sure I did, cause I remember bending down several feet to hug your short self! :-P Hehehe Love you though!

I'm a hugger!  Sometimes, I'm not sure what to do.  I've hugged, and I've shaked hands.  Whichever works.  Most of the photographers are pretty friendly, they hug me and shake my bf's hand!

UnoMundo Photography wrote:
Melissa has issues. She still wets the bed, so dont expect emotional warmth.

I am hugging Iris before the shoot !

I'm gonna have a bad rep now

SLE Photography wrote:

It's not gratitude,they're light headed from you leaving them hanging upside down for so long.

Dee wrote:
Most of the photographers are pretty friendly, they hug me and shake my bf's hand!

it's when they hug your boyfriend and shake your hand that you really have to start worrying.....

Tony Korleone wrote:
I just assume a model does not wish to hug me after a shoot. In fact I have shot with CJ Belle for 6 years and we just go eat after.... ... There is nothing wrong with it for you all though, I think she should lighten up and worry about a rude thing rather than something sooo benign though.

You should give CJ a hug, it's long overdue...

dgold wrote:
I prefer, following a great shoot and collaboration, to kiss on both cheeks
as a show of thank you and genuine admiration.
...I guess I have a little Italian and French blood!

So, c'mon, loosen up, it's okay to show affection and graditude without all of the baggage you want to bring to the table.

You know, you're absolutely right!

And from your premise's logical extension-from now on I am going to have 3 children with every model I shoot, and their mother's as well.

Spread the love baby....

Melissa Lynnette wrote:
Maybe this only happens to me, but what is up with photographers hugging me after a shoot that goes well?  My boss doesn't hug me when he lands a big important client.  My old boss never hugged me when.....oh wait, she did, but she was my aunt.  Ok, bad example.  But what I'm wondering is:  How many photographers are huggers?

I think you are way overthinking this. It's just a hug - a nice generic form of affection.
I know we compare modeling to conventional employment for many things, but the truth is that it's a bit more intimate.

John

Mickle Design Werks wrote:
Being raised in the South, I'm a hugger.


Male models get  the soul brother shake and pow hug.

Female models get the high hug (chest to chest ample body space, hand no lower than the mid to top of thier back)

I hate the pat on the back hugs, I feel its patonizing and feels to much like you are petting your dog or cat.

See, that's were I went wrong. The guy got the hand below the beltline... lol

and I do the pat on the back hug too... kinda tap on the back like you're trying to get rid of them...

I need some lessons on normal human interaction....