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BF thinks my pregnancy shots are "porn" HELP!!!???
thanks everyone fo rthe feedback on this subject, i will certainly keep all teh kind words in mind Jan 28 06 06:39 pm Link Don't think it's porn, but I think that he may have more of a problem with you posting them publicly for all to see. But I am really sure that if you do the g/g fetish with bondage stuff that you are looking to do while you are pregnant....he would definitely see that as porn. Jan 28 06 06:39 pm Link Not porn Send him back to the "red" states (-; Jan 28 06 06:46 pm Link I happen to think this is very natural and beautiful. It's something that maybe someone of the opposite sex wouldn't understand. I guess we can't hold that against them. Jan 28 06 06:50 pm Link Erin-Lynn wrote: Is he joking?? Because a child never sees its parents naked? Jan 28 06 09:19 pm Link Daphne G wrote: The key word in Daphne's reply is "documenting". That's the feel I get from your photos. Porn implies sexual arousal and these images celebrate life. Through my eyes, I see a woman documenting the process of bringing a new life into this world. How beautiful and what a wonderful gift. Jan 28 06 09:32 pm Link I've seen some absolutely stunning maternity portraiture - I don't find it 'porn' in the least.... you're beautiful! enjoy your pregnancy and your images!! Jan 28 06 09:35 pm Link Your photos are beautiful and tasteful, certainly not porn. Does he want you to get dressed in the closet with the lights off too? Jan 28 06 09:40 pm Link I guess all I can say on this matter is that I did art nude shoots all thru my pregnancy with the lower and most of my upp half clothed....or covered.. to document the changes my body made . As a matter of fact i did a shoot 4 days before I had my son. Now the pictures are in his baby book and he is 2yrs oold almost.... My husband at first was kinda iffy on the whole thing until one day i took his hands placed them on my belly and took a up close shot of father trying to touch baby....that picture is framed in our house..all you can see are his hands and my belly. It is so soft and sensual. I also have one up close of him kissing my belly and one of him with eyes closed listening to it as if trying to talk to the baby..they all turned out awsome... Now i think if you were spread eagle that is diffrent. But seeing as how you are nowhere near that I think they are lovley:) Good luck with the pregnancy  !Jan 28 06 09:40 pm Link I don't think your shots are porn like at all. I plan on doing some artistic shots as well with my pregnancy, although right now I'm working on stuff I can submit to pregnancy magazines, etc. I think your boyfriend needs to LOOSEN UP! Jan 28 06 09:46 pm Link Maybe he was bummed out because you didn't tell him that you were doing it. Granted, it sounds like he wouldn't have been happy if you DID bring it up, but maybe you would have had the option of bringing him with you so it didn't seem as devious to him, in his mind... like you did it behind his back or something... I think some of the photos are good, some not so good. Definitely not porn, though, yet... I do think that if you ARE planning on doing a g/g bondage shoot while pregnant, that that WILL be fetish, absolutely, and that could get ALOT uglier as far as the boyfriend situation is concerned. Documenting your pregnancy is something that I think every woman wants to do. Doing girl-on-girl action while tied up and pregnant is probably NOT something that every woman wants to do... Probably not something just any average expectant father would want to see either... But the photos in question? No. Not porn. Jan 28 06 09:57 pm Link you got bigger problems than these pics. Jan 28 06 10:05 pm Link Your pictures are not porn of any sort. Your BF is just having a bit of a freak-out. I watched my friends have their little mental breaks and told myself that I would not do it, but I did just in different ways. I guess as guys we all do. The changes that come with pregnancy and childbirth are unsettling from the male side of the fence as well. You and your BF used to be a couple, now, from his perspective you and the baby are the couple and he needs to figure out where he fits in. Heres Wishing You A Healthy, Happy Baby Matt Jan 28 06 10:25 pm Link Two options: 1. stop shooting. 2. get a new boyfriend. ....oh... am I the daddy? Jan 28 06 10:28 pm Link P.S. Untill now your relationship probably ran along fine all by it self. From now on it will most likely require some amount of work. Parenthood is rather time consuming remember that you have a partner and do something special for them at least once a week. The return is more than worth the effort. matt Jan 28 06 10:31 pm Link Erin-Lynn wrote: Does he expect you to be fully clothed while nursing your baby? Jan 28 06 10:45 pm Link I agree with an earlier posting, the modelling is the least of your worries... Is he going to brainwash your kids in later years to his victorian way of thinking? in this day and age it could turn them in to social delinquents, as a farther of 2 girls 15 and 17 I have left them to their own opinions and have no regrets, they have opposing views but at least they are balanced and aren't scared to confide in me.... those are the REAL long term things to care about, making sure you don't lose your value as a parent... sorry to be heavy but....... :-) Jan 29 06 10:31 am Link If the boyfriend is the controling, maybe you should leave him! Jan 29 06 12:43 pm Link Erin-Lynn wrote: What! Don't tell me that you are actually going to let your baby see your nekid breasts too. OMG! What is this world coming to? Jan 29 06 05:05 pm Link change boyfriend Jan 29 06 05:05 pm Link What do the letters.. BF stand for? Jan 29 06 05:12 pm Link I think pregnant women are beautiful! Nothing pornographic at all about it! Enjoy this special time. Jan 29 06 08:01 pm Link Erin-Lynn wrote: Here is where I say red flag! Jan 30 06 02:16 am Link THe letters BF stand for BOYFRIEND...BF??? get it? LMAO Jan 30 06 02:17 am Link KayleeT wrote: Boyfriend also should be your Best Friend, someone that sticks by you and supports you, and doesn't push his bassackwards ideals at you. Jan 30 06 02:21 am Link This is an interesting topic - Brandon, that is a great book - my wife uses it with the people who come to her with all nature of problems and the principles are pretty profound. Back to the topic regardless of is it or isnt it - that is our opinion - his ipinion is that is it - us as complete strangers are not going to change his mind. Additionally the likelyhood exists that for him this picture would not normally constitute such a response in himself but when its the woman that he loves and has a huge emotional connection with then the lines change and was used to be acceptable now reflects a different color and he sees it differently. That is my only thought at this late hour - there are more but I need to split. Take care and good luck following the discussion through to conclusion with him - additionally I reccommend the Boundries book. Jan 30 06 02:39 am Link Well i understand where everyone is comming from, and i would have left him but he is the father. Also he is actully very good to me other then this problem with the picture's. Someone mentioned teh victorian brain wash thing, this is where him being a truck driver comes in handy....hes only home on weekends:) So i do all teh raising and so on, he knows my veiws on things and he knows it will be my way. He doesnt exactly have a choice in that matter anyways since he's not home enough to "brain wash". I am very happy to see al the replys in this post, it has opened my eyes a bit more. I will not quit modeling not for anyone, and he knows that. I put my foot down Jan 30 06 06:43 pm Link Your maternity photos are not porn. Period. It sounds like your man is a wee bit too conservative. As I mentioned in my reply to your other thread, I shoot a lot of maternity shots myself (as seen at www.LorenScott.net). And, as you can see in those shots, I make it a point to involve the husband in the shots whenever possible -- even if I pull them into just a couple of the shots. The reason for this is to (A) make them feel comfortable having some guy photographing his scantily-clad pregnant wife at such a seemingly vulnerable stage of her life, and (B) to insure that he feels a sense of involvement with the project. He cannot come back later and complain about her getting maternity shots done if he was not only there, but he was also in some of the shots. So... perhaps if you had involved him with that shoot, he would have been a bit more of a team player on this. Reverse the roles for a second... (eliminating the pregnant part)... imagine if your hubby showed you some photos of him nude that he said a female photographer took of him. Unless you were involved (or at least aware), what would your reaction be? --Loren-- Jan 30 06 07:07 pm Link Erin-Lynn wrote: How did he even get you pregnant at all? Did he keep his eyes closed the whole time? Jan 30 06 07:15 pm Link i definitely wouldn't classify those as porn whatsoever...but thats my opinion... Anywho, i say throw a shoe at him and tell him to grow up... thats how i solve my arguments with my boyfriend... (its surprisingly effective) *smirk* Jan 30 06 07:16 pm Link Loren Scott Photography wrote: I dont think i would mind really, i think i would be turned on to tell you the truth, im a perv lol. He didnt wanna take pix with me Jan 30 06 09:04 pm Link Erin-Lynn wrote: The b&w is frigging beautiful! Damn right your kids will appreciate what "mom" looked like when she was younger. That is if "BF" doesn't scare them away before then with his mental garbage. Jan 30 06 09:15 pm Link Semi-nude & nude is not porn. Having sex & taking pics or video taping it,is porn. You did nothing wrong & your pics look great! Jan 30 06 09:20 pm Link Erin-Lynn wrote: This doesn't sound good. If he expects YOU to make all the attitude and outlook adjustments because he can't find it within himself to budge an inch, then he's already created the end of the relationship. And, he'll prove himself right, at your expense ("it's all yout fault"). Jan 30 06 09:30 pm Link Brandon Cordon wrote: I take offense. Brandon, the point of a long-term relationship (long term = a multitude of years) is that both "halves" want and are willing to make adjustments with each other's "quirks." Both. Getting your partner to change to fit your needs or wants or interests at any given time? What makes you so special to be better than them? Jan 30 06 09:38 pm Link The short answer is... He's an idiot. The long answer begins with... He should be celebrating this time with you. Your body will experience some incredible changes and that SHOULD be recorded. Do you want your child seeing you like this? Absolutely! If his definitive answer to that question is 'no'... What is his glitch with the pregnant form? If you weren't so far away - I'd do a bondage shoot with you in a second! And for the record - I'd show my Mom the results... Take EVERY opportunity to revel in your pregancy. Enjoy it. Enjoy the art that comes of it. And then enjoy your child even more. If your boyfriend has an issue with you taking a bit of time to memorialize and enjoy your pregancy now... What kind of bitch is he going to be when the child is born and he CAN'T be the center of attention. He needs to realize that this pregnancy is NOT about him. There are books. And pharmaceuticals. And support groups. And, quite honestly, people that think his opinion is full of shit - but wish him well anyway. He needs to get a grip. You need to get naked. Regularly. As in - on a schedule. Find a photographer and make it a point to shoot on specific dates. Document this for your child. This isn't about him... E. BTW: If you decide to thaw out for part of the winter in this part of Florida... I'll clear my schedule. Jan 30 06 09:47 pm Link Amanda May wrote: I can think of an answer. But I can't post it here. Jan 30 06 09:48 pm Link Erin-Lynn wrote: He needs to climb down out of that truck cab once in awhile, and walk barefoot in real earth and grass. (read this as "he needs a dose of reality"). Jan 30 06 09:58 pm Link Doctor E wrote: Doctor E knows best. Jan 30 06 09:58 pm Link glenn usdin wrote: Glenn hit the nail on the head, because you have already admitted there are issues and if you think it is going to get better just because you're having a baby...your in big trouble. Jan 30 06 10:18 pm Link |
