KatieK wrote:
However, I am of the mindset that I decide what I'll do with my time and my body and that I'll pose for and post images of MY choice.  His opinion no longer counts.  So we made the deal that modelling is my thing, and if he's not interested, that's fine. 

Sounds like your friend needs to stand up for herself a little.  If she's happy with the photos, and is okay with them being posted, she should tell her bf to piss off.

Amen to that! Good for you. Thats awesome! More women need to (should) stand up to their man like that. I've always been like that and have always been looked upon as a bitch. But, whatever...

I haven't run into this problem as far as my shoots with models, except for once... but the model told her BF to piss off, like you said. I'm so happy she did, because we have some great images that would be a shame not to be able to use them, all over some boyfriend's insecurities.

jon mmmayhem wrote:
the email today that her boyfriend "doesn't like the idea" of her being naked on the internet. he knew she was coming to hang out and take pictures, but he apparently thought they would be "more clothed".
so in order to not upset him, i have taken them down.

umm.. SHOOT THE BOY FRIEND.. i am thinking I oughta set up a service that simply makes boy friends dissappear.... no trace, no hints...they would simply dissappear.. now to just make this business model legal..

Jack Checkowy wrote:
Just did a shoot a few weeks ago, have some fantastic topless images of the model, showed her the edited version, she loves it!!!  However, boyfriend objects! Even though I have a signed release, I have agreed not to post it on any of my portfolios on line.

Hmm, Ontario... now see if I offer my services in Canada.. isn't there a Great Lake in the neighborhood???

KatieK wrote:
Y'know, that really sucks.  Both on her part and on the boyfriend's part.  My boyfriend tried to tell me that he was supportive of my modelling and that he was behind me 100% no matter what I decided to do.  Then he saw an implied nude and flipped sh*t.  Now, I don't show him ANY of my photos because he has nothing but negative comments and a bad attitude about my shoots. 

However, I am of the mindset that I decide what I'll do with my time and my body and that I'll pose for and post images of MY choice.  His opinion no longer counts.  So we made the deal that modelling is my thing, and if he's not interested, that's fine. 

Sounds like your friend needs to stand up for herself a little.  If she's happy with the photos, and is okay with them being posted, she should tell her bf to piss off.

It sounds to me like a lot of models are choosing the wrong men...jealousy is just insecurity turned outward. Thank God I'm marrying a woman who not only likes girls, she's not jealous when I shoot!

jon mmmayhem wrote:
... friend of mine ... we both liked.

... it was just two people who have been friends for years goofing around taking pictures ...

Given the above, be happy that you and your friend were edified.

The old cliche - disagreements are the result of differing expectations.

jon mmmayhem wrote:
anyway, i don't expect answers, or sympathy. i'm just venting, because, in the words of Morrissey, "i've seen this happen in other people's lives, and now, it's happening in mine"

If you expect more (seems you did at some level), work with adults who live their own lives and get a release ... or make sure that your friend understands your expectations up front.

ReallyRandy wrote:
Hi, you're interested in a shoot? Great. Do you have a boyfriend? you do? Sorry I only shoot lesbians and drag queens. bye.

Looks like you also shoot clowns,   but who can blame you.

ReallyRandy wrote:
I just had a slight bf issue today. Shoot cancelled for pregnant chick cause bf wasn't invited. Jeez!

Hey Randy, what was her name? Same thing happened to me last month...I wonder if its the same girl?

Terry Breedlove wrote:
I have this one particular model and we have been through three boyfriends together ! Each time they get upset and she has to stop modeling and each time she asks me to take the shots down. Well she just called and left me a message and guess what boyfriend number 4 is a goner and she wants to shoot again!  So guess what I am doing this weekend  LOL Man I am a sucker for a pretty blond !


Here is a video I made of our last shoot this summer and just before boyfriend number 3 pulled the plug.  Enjoy    http://tbreedlove.googlepages.com/apriltest.mov

Awesome video...um.. if she is looking for someone who won't care.. i am willing to be #5... Let's face it women, attractive women seem to pick the BIGGEST LOSERS around. I know this from several models that I have just chatted back and forth with.. WHY .. I have no clue.. other than the the guys who abuse, smell, and have little intellect seem to attract them..it is VERY SAD.. and there seems no answer........ then again a good wood chipper is not a bad idea.

Alexis Silsbe wrote:

I have to admit, when you said "eat" the first thing that came to my mind was not food... Sorry. I'm a dirty, dirty girl.

Alexis ~ "ohhh dammm" I didn`t even see that.....uppps! Stepped on a landmine with that word eat

Well, because you found that so amusing and because you have such a adorable 1920`s flapper pic I just added you!

Tim Baker wrote:
Ask her what she wants; he's a nonentity in this matter.

i'm pretty sure she wants him to be happy, regardless of what it does to anyone else.

also, they have been dating for about... two months.

Len Cook Photographer wrote:

More evidence for my theory that hypocrisy is a MUCH more popular hobby than photography.

i hear that!

KoolGirlieStuff wrote:
I`ve met EXTREMELY AGGRESSIVE AND POSSESSIVE nutcase girl lovers who if they had their way they`d lock their significant other in a closet and only let her out to eat twice a day.....

Alexis Silsbe wrote:
I have to admit, when you said "eat" the first thing that came to my mind was not food... Sorry. I'm a dirty, dirty girl.

Bad dirty girl! Papa *spank*

jon mmmayhem wrote:

i'm pretty sure she wants him to be happy, regardless of what it does to anyone else.

also, they have been dating for about... two months.

MY b/f try to get crazy with me the other night about modeling photos, I told him to shut the fuck up, don't ever come into my MM page and start shit with me. I took those photos because I WANTED TO, no one forced me to. B/f are really stupid, don't ever take them to a shoot. THERE GAY!!!!

SPHH make him happy, I'll make myself happy before him.

Terry Breedlove wrote:
http://tbreedlove.googlepages.com/apriltest.mov

Lovely bumpers.

mjr.

Amanda Padilla wrote:
I HATE MY B/F HE CAN KISS MY ASS!

Don't you mean your "EX B/F"?

mjr.

Amanda Padilla wrote:
I HATE MY B/F HE CAN KISS MY ASS!

woah.
are... are you ok?

Doug Mackay    DMP wrote:
welcome to the ass wipe strikes club indeed.

uh huh....my feeling exactly

jon mmmayhem wrote:
i took a few hundred pictures of a friend of mine over the weekend, and there were some great ones in there that we both liked.
i had one up here (maybe you were lucky enough to see it), where she was curled up on her side on a bed in her underwear. it was beautifully (if i may say so) and tastefully done, and not at all incriminating or sleazy or scandalous.
but
i got the email today that her boyfriend "doesn't like the idea" of her being naked on the internet. he knew she was coming to hang out and take pictures, but he apparently thought they would be "more clothed".
so in order to not upset him, i have taken them down.

this was not a professionally set up shoot. no money changed hands and no contracts were signed. it was just two people who have been friends for years goofing around taking pictures.
but still...

anyway, i don't expect answers, or sympathy. i'm just venting, because, in the words of Morrissey, "i've seen this happen in other people's lives, and now, it's happening in mine"

Tricky tricky situation, as significant others to play a role in things like this.  My boyfriend went on a photoshoot and for reasons MUCH more than "i don't want people to see him" I requested she remove his pictures (oh, the background story had much relevance) but under the circumstances you gave, I can't understand why her boyfriend would have an issue with the photos.  Perhaps he would rather think of her body as theirs to share instead of theirs and the world to share, if it makes you feel any better to look at it that way.  As a friend, maybe it'll help you not to be angry that he at least respects her?  I'm just trying to help.  Perhaps, given my lack of sleep, that isn't such a wonderful idea.  Maybe the three of you could talk, if you really want to post those pictures, and he can decide WITH you which ones he feels are appropriate to go online?  If not he's a loser.

ReallyRandy wrote:
From now on I'm only shooting lesbians and maybe drag queens.

LOL

LHC Photography wrote:

NC17 and Renee, I just want to let you gals know that I am single and if thing ever go sour with your relationship, drop me a line.

I'll have to remember that

Paul Valach wrote:
Awesome video...um.. if she is looking for someone who won't care.. i am willing to be #5... Let's face it women, attractive women seem to pick the BIGGEST LOSERS around. I know this from several models that I have just chatted back and forth with.. WHY .. I have no clue.. other than the the guys who abuse, smell, and have little intellect seem to attract them..it is VERY SAD.. and there seems no answer........ then again a good wood chipper is not a bad idea.

Whoa whoa man... thats a pretty big blanket statement!!! So you're basically saying that my boyfriend is a looser because I'd say I'm attractive? Uhhh I don't think so. Bitter much?

CL Photography wrote:
Bf, BS They are your pictures your work and since you are not selling them, they are not porn, and both models and you agreed to the work too bad.

HUH? Since the pictures aren't being sold they aren't porn? Since when did images being sold equate to porn? Please tell me I read that wrong!

Amanda Padilla wrote:
I HATE MY B/F HE CAN KISS MY ASS!

LOL, Now you're talkin'!

NC17 wrote:

I'll have to remember that

Get in line LHC, I'm first in line if she ever breaks up with her BF.

NC17 wrote:

Whoa whoa man... thats a pretty big blanket statement!!! So you're basically saying that my boyfriend is a looser because I'd say I'm attractive? Uhhh I don't think so. Bitter much?

Not bitter, annoyed is more like it. We all make bad decisions, its just this one seems to make less sense all the time. Maybe you did find someone who is nice, kind and supportive of you...but there are many others who do not and they repeat the process over and over. And YES when I toss a blanket I don't bother with a napkin, I toss the king size one.

Rossi Photography wrote:

Amen to that! Good for you. Thats awesome! More women need to (should) stand up to their man like that. I've always been like that and have always been looked upon as a bitch. But, whatever...

I haven't run into this problem as far as my shoots with models, except for once... but the model told her BF to piss off, like you said. I'm so happy she did, because we have some great images that would be a shame not to be able to use them, all over some boyfriend's insecurities.

Thanks for the support.  I hear that I'm 'bitchy' all the time when I stand up for myself.  I've informed him that I have a father, I'm not looking for a new one.  We're in the process of working through this.  Your support really helds, thanks a ton!

jon mmmayhem wrote:
she ended her last email with "maybe later", so there's that slight window of hope that either he comes to his senses and realizes there's nothing wrong with these, or... she cans him.
i hope the former and not the latter, because all this hassle aside, i can tell he really does make her happy.
he's all she could talk about while she was here.

Ummmm.. that doest mean happy.. that could mean FOOLISH.. that no matter what he does, she will conform to it "because I love him"..

I had a girl I shot with for over a year tell me she couldnt shoot anymore because she has a new boyfriend and he doesnt trust photograhers and doesnt want anyone else to see HIS WOMAN nude..

I told her I could care less about his wants, I was disappointed at HER behavior for giving into that nonsense in order to hang onto a man..

She later emailed me to say she begged him to let her shoot with me and he said as long as he could meet me first.. to which I gave them the big FUCK YOU because I NEVER need to meet him.. HE did not have a year long relationship with me, SHE did and that should have been enough..

But hey, it is what it is..

Same thing that makes you laugh will make you cry.. That controlling mentality that she now excuses will be the same thing she is crying about later when it is over and she feels stupid for allowing it..

YOU did the right thing for YOUR friend..

KatieK wrote:
Thanks for the support.  I hear that I'm 'bitchy' all the time when I stand up for myself.

i really really hate this mentality, this double-standard.
personally, i like it when people, men and women, are assertive.

ReallyRandy wrote:
Boyfriends suck ass! From now on I'm only shooting lesbians and maybe drag queens.

I just had a slight bf issue today. Shoot cancelled for pregnant chick cause bf wasn't invited. Jeez!

Nah, that doesn't work either..I've had emails from models who say they want to make sure I don't use pics of them...clothed even...because their girlfriends get upset and jealous.