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Photographer

Mikel Featherston

Posts: 11103

San Diego, California, US

Image K wrote:

You must be the exception to the rule, then.

Models complain constantly that they are pressured to do nudes.

Well, they need to let other models who contact them know about the photographers who try to press them beyond their comfort zone.

Dec 13 06 10:14 pm Link

Photographer

Sophistocles

Posts: 21320

Seattle, Washington, US

Image K wrote:
You must be the exception to the rule, then.

Models complain constantly that they are pressured to do nudes.

We're not talking about nudes. We're talking about trade (TFP).

Dec 13 06 10:17 pm Link

Model

CrazyRussianHelicopter

Posts: 3256

Madison, Alabama, US

This is hilarious - HOW SAID ANYTHING ABOUT NUDES smile hahahah:)
god! People!

Dec 13 06 10:49 pm Link

Model

CrazyRussianHelicopter

Posts: 3256

Madison, Alabama, US

James Graham wrote:
Do you mean "says" ???

Cause I'm really confused...

Yes, I did.

Did you mean to start an "English language" class in this thread? cause I'm really confused...

Dec 13 06 10:53 pm Link

Photographer

Luminos

Posts: 6065

Columbia, Maryland, US

Madcitychel wrote:
We all know that a lot of times when a woman sais "no" that really means "maybe".

I find the same thing with photographers here.  No TFP - that means "maybe if you are hot".

Thought there are a few photographers, who say Absolutely no TFP, no exceptions.  So that is a most likely a "no".

I insist on no TFP.  If the model won't accept pay, then why bother?

Dec 13 06 10:54 pm Link

Model

CrazyRussianHelicopter

Posts: 3256

Madison, Alabama, US

Image K wrote:

You must be the exception to the rule, then.

Models complain constantly that they are pressured to do nudes.

I know a few photographers who are contacted by models to shoot nudes thought.  It's just depends how good photographer is.

Dec 13 06 10:54 pm Link

Photographer

Stephen Melvin

Posts: 16334

Kansas City, Missouri, US

I've shot nudes of models who say, "no nudes" on their profile page. There was no pressure (as if that ever leads to great photos), just a mutual interest.

Yes, there are exceptions. I was debating whether to start saying that I'm "limiting" my TFCD's on my profile page, but I figure it's best to keep my options open. You never know who you'll turn away.

Dec 13 06 11:00 pm Link

Photographer

Sophistocles

Posts: 21320

Seattle, Washington, US

Madcitychel wrote:
I know a few photographers who are contacted by models to shoot nudes thought.  It's just depends how good photographer is.

On an almost-daily basis.

And I'd say about half the time I do a trade shoot for my primary client (a radio station that wants only Maxim-style content), the model asks if I'd do something more risque with her afterwards, or another time.

And they always want trade :-)

Dec 13 06 11:04 pm Link

Model

CrazyRussianHelicopter

Posts: 3256

Madison, Alabama, US

Stephen Melvin wrote:
I've shot nudes of models who say, "no nudes" on their profile page. There was no pressure (as if that ever leads to great photos), just a mutual interest.

Yes, there are exceptions. I was debating whether to start saying that I'm "limiting" my TFCD's on my profile page, but I figure it's best to keep my options open. You never know who you'll turn away.

Those were my thoughts exacetly.

Dec 13 06 11:04 pm Link

Photographer

Food 4 Less

Posts: 378

Los Angeles, California, US

Hi Yulia
like the post,
however i would like to remark that

mushchini tak ze kak zenshini govoriat net no imeut v vedu da.

zdes slishkom mnogo maslyanix mushikov kotorie lubat govorit and predumavat pro to kak zhenshini ficklie, dumaya chto oni vsie znaut, tak ne hotem im tak razreshat!!!


BEST TO YOU!
xo
renata smile

Dec 13 06 11:05 pm Link

Photographer

SLE Photography

Posts: 68937

Orlando, Florida, US

SLE Photography wrote:
Hey, if a woman whips out a set of these
https://www.amas.net/CU/CU_1251.jpg
you can believe I'm taking "no" for an answer!

Madcitychel wrote:
Is that right?
https://pics.livejournal.com/madcitychel/pic/0006ybs2/s320x320

Yep, that sais no all right.
She sure doesn't need an escort!

Dec 13 06 11:15 pm Link

Model

CrazyRussianHelicopter

Posts: 3256

Madison, Alabama, US

Renata Brazilia wrote:
Hi Yulia
like the post,
however i would like to remark that

mushchini tak ze kak zenshini govoriat net no imeut v vedu da.

zdes slishkom mnogo maslyanix mushikov kotorie lubat govorit and predumavat pro to kak zhenshini ficklie, dumaya chto oni vsie znaut, tak ne hotem im tak razreshat!!!


BEST TO YOU!
xo
renata smile

Privet :")
Eto uzh tochno - LOL.  Nasotyachih muzhikov zdes' NEmnogo smile

Dec 13 06 11:21 pm Link

Photographer

Miles Chandler

Posts: 647

Victoria, British Columbia, Canada

SLE Photography wrote:

SLE Photography wrote:
Hey, if a woman whips out a set of these
you can believe I'm taking "no" for an answer!

Madcitychel wrote:
Is that right?
Yep, that sais no all right.
She sure doesn't need an escort!

I still wonder how many folks got that those weapons are called "sai".. might as well spell it out:-)

Dec 13 06 11:29 pm Link

Model

CrazyRussianHelicopter

Posts: 3256

Madison, Alabama, US

Miles Chandler wrote:

SLE Photography wrote:

SLE Photography wrote:
Hey, if a woman whips out a set of these
you can believe I'm taking "no" for an answer!

Madcitychel wrote:
Is that right?
Yep, that sais no all right.
She sure doesn't need an escort!

I still wonder how many folks got that those weapons are called "sai".. might as well spell it out:-)

I call them forks tongue

Dec 13 06 11:36 pm Link

Model

Alix Andrea

Posts: 3035

Los Angeles, California, US

Ransom J wrote:
Yeah that's pretty much how it works.  but whether or not a girl is hot enough is up to MY discretion.  hence why I state that I don't do TFP unless I hit YOU up for it.  That way i don't have to hurt anybody's feelings.

Hence why models leave tags and comment overloads on top phtographers pages hoping they will see their face and change their mind about the TFP wink

Dec 13 06 11:37 pm Link

Model

Shyly

Posts: 3870

Pasadena, California, US

It's not just hotness.  Nobody has ever agreed to collaborate with me based on hotness, but a whole slew of fantastic photographers have because they feel I can bring something unique to their work.

It's about standing out from the crowd.  Be hotter than everyone else, or if you can't do that, bring something else to the table that makes you the only and obvious choice to shoot with.  The rest falls into place from there.

Dec 13 06 11:42 pm Link

Model

Alix Andrea

Posts: 3035

Los Angeles, California, US

Shyly wrote:
It's not just hotness.  Nobody has ever agreed to collaborate with me based on hotness, but a whole slew of fantastic photographers have because they feel I can bring something unique to their work.

It's about standing out from the crowd.  Be hotter than everyone else, or if you can't do that, bring something else to the table that makes you the only and obvious choice to shoot with.  The rest falls into place from there.

Psh...so modest. you know you're hot wink I'd kill for your hair..

Dec 13 06 11:44 pm Link

Model

CrazyRussianHelicopter

Posts: 3256

Madison, Alabama, US

Shyly wrote:
It's not just hotness.  Nobody has ever agreed to collaborate with me based on hotness, but a whole slew of fantastic photographers have because they feel I can bring something unique to their work.

It's about standing out from the crowd.  Be hotter than everyone else, or if you can't do that, bring something else to the table that makes you the only and obvious choice to shoot with.  The rest falls into place from there.

I agree - i was just generalizing ans shortening my message - cuz not a lot of people read them throughly to begin with.

Dec 13 06 11:46 pm Link

Model

CrazyRussianHelicopter

Posts: 3256

Madison, Alabama, US

Alix Andrea wrote:

Hence why models leave tags and comment overloads on top phtographers pages hoping they will see their face and change their mind about the TFP wink

Some do - I take "no" for a "no" so I would leave comments no matter what.

Dec 13 06 11:47 pm Link

Model

Jinx1313

Posts: 259

Emeryville, California, US

Alix Andrea wrote:
Hence why models leave tags and comment overloads on top phtographers pages hoping they will see their face and change their mind about the TFP wink

Haha!  Exactly.  One photog used to do TFP and I never had the nerve to contact him but when I finally did he had rates posted.  I sent him a message saying "Damn!  I should have contacted you before you started charging" and admitted to being intimated by his great work.  He replied "See you shouldn't be so shy and take risks in life."  We now have a TFP shoot scheduled for the end of this month, hehe.

Dec 13 06 11:52 pm Link

Model

Iona Lynn

Posts: 11176

Oakland, California, US

I keep telling myself  this is the last TFP then I find my self staring at a book that has images that make my brain bleed...


If a photogrpahers images make my brain bleed and I want to  get rid of what I already have to make room for theres then I will do TFP...


It all depends on who askes...

Dec 13 06 11:53 pm Link

Model

Alix Andrea

Posts: 3035

Los Angeles, California, US

Jinx1313 wrote:

Haha!  Exactly.  One photog used to do TFP and I never had the nerve to contact him but when I finally did he had rates posted.  I sent him a message saying "Damn!  I should have contacted you before you started charging" and admitted to being intimated by his great work.  He replied "See you shouldn't be so shy and take risks in life."  We now have a TFP shoot scheduled for the end of this month, hehe.

Thats cuz you're hot! wink

Dec 13 06 11:54 pm Link

Photographer

Ransomaniac

Posts: 12588

Las Vegas, Nevada, US

Iona Lynn wrote:
I keep telling myself  this is the last TFP then I find my self staring at a book that has images that make my brain bleed...


If a photogrpahers images make my brain bleed and I want to  get rid of what I already have to make room for theres then I will do TFP...


It all depends on who askes...

**slices brain with a razor**

Dec 13 06 11:54 pm Link

Photographer

Ransomaniac

Posts: 12588

Las Vegas, Nevada, US

Shyly wrote:
It's not just hotness.  Nobody has ever agreed to collaborate with me based on hotness, but a whole slew of fantastic photographers have because they feel I can bring something unique to their work.

It's about standing out from the crowd.  Be hotter than everyone else, or if you can't do that, bring something else to the table that makes you the only and obvious choice to shoot with.  The rest falls into place from there.

Hotness isn't necessarily all about "looks"  Sometimes it's the way the girl brings it to the camera.  Personality, or sometimes it's a certain look that would be hot for your project/ book/ idea that makes her hawt.

besides Shyly, you KNOW you're fierce so quit fishing dammit!

Dec 13 06 11:57 pm Link

Model

Angela_M

Posts: 558

Chicago, Illinois, US

Image K wrote:
There are exceptions to every rule.

Agreed.

Dec 13 06 11:58 pm Link

Photographer

duds here

Posts: 397

Chicago, Illinois, US

Sometimes no tfp means no except when the photographer suddenly thinks of a new concept or project and finds the right model then .....why not?

It happens when I sometimes get requests from people who have an interesting look that will fit ideas I have.  It hurts the pocket book but sometimes you have to put out to get back.

The same is true with models, I have photographed many who said pay only.

So it doesn't hurt to ask, like the two that contacted me yesterday, I may shoot with one of them, but it does help to follow instructions about calling etc. so the photog doesn't waste their time with no shows.

Dec 14 06 12:05 am Link

Model

Angela_M

Posts: 558

Chicago, Illinois, US

Shyly wrote:
It's not just hotness.  Nobody has ever agreed to collaborate with me based on hotness, but a whole slew of fantastic photographers have because they feel I can bring something unique to their work.

It's about standing out from the crowd.  Be hotter than everyone else, or if you can't do that, bring something else to the table that makes you the only and obvious choice to shoot with.  The rest falls into place from there.

Yes,I agree with this too.

Dec 14 06 12:06 am Link

Photographer

Artistic Vision

Posts: 2207

Billings, Montana, US

James Graham wrote:
Do you mean "says" ???

Cause I'm really confused...

My thoughts as well at first I thought it was a type-o in just the title till I opened it up.

Dec 14 06 12:08 am Link

Photographer

Image K

Posts: 23400

Las Vegas, Nevada, US

Christopher Ambler wrote:

We're not talking about nudes. We're talking about trade (TFP).

I got my threads crossed...

Sorry, guys.

Dec 14 06 01:19 am Link

Model

Shyly

Posts: 3870

Pasadena, California, US

Ransom J wrote:
Hotness isn't necessarily all about "looks"  Sometimes it's the way the girl brings it to the camera.  Personality, or sometimes it's a certain look that would be hot for your project/ book/ idea that makes her hawt.

besides Shyly, you KNOW you're fierce so quit fishing dammit!

:p  I'm not fishin'!  I'm making a point, and it would be mean to use anyone but myself as an example.  And we BOTH know I'm not hot.  The girls you shoot, they're hot.  I'm an art model who gets to make neat photographs sometimes.  Different critters entirely.  The point was that sometimes, if you're hot enough, the bad boys of photography will make an exception for you.  (Or as bt puts it, if you can make him stutter.)  But also sometimes, if you're unusual enough, or ballsy enough, or something-different-and-intriguing enough, those bad boys will also make an exception. 

I just think this is a great topic, because it illustrates so well that instead of trying so damn hard to look and be and act like everyone else (and therefore be a completely forgettable part of the herd), sometimes it's a good idea to just be your own bad self.

Dec 14 06 02:12 am Link

Photographer

SLE Photography

Posts: 68937

Orlando, Florida, US

Shyly wrote:
And we BOTH know I'm not hot.

My girlfriend thinks you're hot.  big_smile

Dec 14 06 03:15 am Link

Photographer

Kentsoul

Posts: 9739

Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, US

Madcitychel wrote:
We all know that a lot of times when a woman sais "no" that really means "maybe".

I find the same thing with photographers here.  No TFP - that means "maybe if you are hot".

Thought there are a few photographers, who say Absolutely no TFP, no exceptions.  So that is a most likely a "no".

By the same token, I've been approached for TFP recently by two different models who list "Paid Assignments Only" on their profiles.  I'm certainly not complaining, but this particular blade does cut both ways.

Dec 14 06 09:13 am Link

Photographer

Kentsoul

Posts: 9739

Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, US

Shyly wrote:
Nobody has ever agreed to collaborate with me based on hotness...

I did.

Dec 14 06 09:14 am Link

Photographer

ChanStudio

Posts: 9219

Alpharetta, Georgia, US

Madcitychel wrote:
We all know that a lot of times when a woman sais "no" that really means "maybe".

I find the same thing with photographers here.  No TFP - that means "maybe if you are hot".

Thought there are a few photographers, who say Absolutely no TFP, no exceptions.  So that is a most likely a "no".

Why do we human have to create life with such complication?  Why not just mean what one said, a "No" means no! I find that individual who is wishy-washy tend to go back and forth between "No" and "Maybe" on the same subject.

Dec 14 06 09:26 am Link