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The Paid 'Sexy Pics for Hubby' Shoot
I'm doing my first shoot for a client that wants soem sexy pics for her hubby. She was referred by a model I worked with and she liked the subtlety of te nude shots I had vs. boring studio shots with plain backdrop (which was her other option). She's driving quite a way to do the shoot, so I'm flattered. I've had other sinterested in doing some shots like this after they saw a set I id with my wife last year, but this is my first actual paid shoot with these kind of photos. We have a shot list put together, but anyone have any advice for these kind of shots? Ever have a husband ticked off with you for doing these shots of their wife without their knowledge? Nov 27 06 11:42 am Link To quote Tommy Lee, Methods of Mayhem, "Get naked" Nov 27 06 11:44 am Link II have done it many times; the secret is PRIVACY not price. I ask them to bring a laptop. I load the pics on THEIR laptop and erase my card. Hubby is satisfied that I am not looking at his wife's love box. Nov 27 06 11:44 am Link She will be nekkid...she wants classy, sexy nudes. Her man is/was in the military and we're incorporating the uniform inot the shoot for some shots. Just wondering if I might get a knock on my door afterwards..... Nov 27 06 11:45 am Link Yikes! Be careful... Nov 27 06 11:46 am Link UnoMundo Photography wrote: I will edit pics afterwards, more than likely. Do you think telling someone you've erased their pics is sufficient, or does that depend on how much they trust you? For toher shoots, I've kept the original photos in case they lost them or wanted additional shots...and it paid off in one case. Is this entirely different? Nov 27 06 11:47 am Link A significant portion of my cash business comes from Boudoir shoots. I have never encountered a husband who was upset. Most wives would know in advance if this was going to be an issue. Best advice I can offer is find the best angles for your client and work from there. I have found over the years that gravity is a woman's best friend after a certain age. Reclined poses will smooth out wrinkles, and visually improve a body that does not have firmness on it's side any longer... Best of luck! Nov 27 06 11:50 am Link She sought you out for a service, who cares what he thinks...business is business. Do your job with your client. If he wants to harrass you about it then sue him and get paid again. Nov 27 06 11:51 am Link One piece of advice, as a former Marine I would not want my wife doing sexy poses in my uniform. It's just something that alot of Marines feel is sacred. Nov 27 06 11:52 am Link This woman is in her low to mid 20's, I believe. I don't thin gravity will be an issue. Do you store all photos or delete them after the shoot? We hadn't really discussed this, but I'd like to give her comfort one way or the other that nothing will be released. In fact, I said I'd even give her discount if there is a shot or two I can use for my own book (one not showing her face), but that would be decided after the final shots are edited. Nov 27 06 11:53 am Link Image Video wrote: Ahhh.......good insight. Maybe I'll run that by her in advance. Nov 27 06 11:54 am Link Don't be so quick to erase them... My first buiduar client has had some break up issues and she now no longer has her prints,,, guess what, she has said she may order more from me. Nov 27 06 11:57 am Link Hm... the one shoot I did of this type, the models signed a full, unrestricted release. Then, she bought prints from me at a discounted price. The husband loved them. So I guess I don't have enough experience to give advice. Maybe you can ask Mr. bt. Nov 27 06 11:59 am Link I do quite a lot of nude portrait work and it's often a gift for a fiancee or something and supposed to be a surprise. They're buying signed prints so clearly I need to keep the files, edit them, and make that happen. Obviously there's some trust involved. I've never gotten any grief from those. Interestingly enough I did have a MODEL shoot where she did her first nude set, didn't tell their husband before, and started to lead up to telling him after and he made some comment like "If my wife ever did something like that I'd divorce her in a heartbeat." I don't think she ever told him. Nov 27 06 12:01 pm Link Sleepy Weasel wrote: yes, entirely different. Do NOT put these into your portfolio. This is PRIVATE. Nov 27 06 12:02 pm Link I will admit, things are a little different for me. I have the distinct advantage of being a girl- less worries that way. Have you considered asking your wife to be there with you both for everyone's comfort? If her DH has a problem, you all can tell the truth that there was an escort available at all times. Another thing that has worked really well for me is to offer "Pyjamma Parties." I rent the conference room of a local (new) hotel and set up my studio. I have on hand light snacks and wine. I also have a variety of props available and lots of fresh roses (actually I go gather up all the sale flowers they have at Wal-Mart...pluck off the bad petals and you are good to go.) I offer the 'hostess' a free session AND 10% of the party's total in print credit. I offer 30 minute sessions for each guest. These parties have been VERY successful and are a lot of fun. Add a little sexy dance music and you have got a great money earner on your hands. The nice part is it gives the attendees a feeling of safety in numbers. I realize that the Pyjamma Party doesn't help you in your current situation, but it may be something you wanna consider in the future. If you have any questions, feel free to PM me! best of luck, amy Nov 27 06 12:04 pm Link I said, wait a minute, mister, I didnt even kiss her. Dont want no trouble with you. - Gimme Three Steps - Lynyrd Skynyrd Nov 27 06 12:04 pm Link Sleepy Weasel wrote: Yea, once but that was after I took the "pee-cam" out'a the restroom Nov 27 06 12:04 pm Link A very self serving suggestion but...it helps to have an experienced makeup artist & stylist person on these shoots. They will get the pampering and beautiful look they deserve. That in and of itself is a very big selling point for most of the boudoir shoots I work on. It's a comfort level that sells. Nov 27 06 12:10 pm Link UnoMundo Photography wrote: I had no intention of posting them in my port wihtout their consent (if there was even a shot I wanted for my own use). I was just referring to keeping them on my HD or on a sepaarte CD for future reference (if she wanted more, lost her copy, etc.). Nov 27 06 12:12 pm Link amy coe wrote: Yes, my wife will be there. The shoot is actually at my house (due to the backdrops we need for the shots). Nov 27 06 12:14 pm Link I got hired a few years ago by a lady to shoot sexy Valentine's nudes for her husband on the hood of his classic sports car. I shot the pics & got them to her. This was back pre-digital days so I still had the negs. She knocked on my door on the 15th with a black eye & split lip & asked for the negatives & her money back. I freaked & said we should call the cops but she said hubby was home with their kid & she was afraid he'd hurt the kid if she called them. I gave her her $ back and took scissors & cut the negs up in to recognizable but unuseable pieces and sent her on her way. NEVER again. Nov 27 06 12:30 pm Link Good Luck! Ask her if she ever discussed sexy pics with her hubby. I've been a model for 10 years and my hubby will still get upset if theres too much skin. Nov 27 06 12:42 pm Link I'd wait for the soldier to come home and let you know he is cool with it. Some surprises don't turn out the way you plan. Nov 27 06 12:55 pm Link I have done several shots like the one you describe. Like was said a few times, their trust will get you more work. Shoot them, give them all of the shots, and do not keep anything. If they want prints, get the specific files from them to print. I have never had a bad reaction fro a spouse/significant other etc.. Quite the opposite. Actually landed a lot more work from them to shoot for their friends. Discretion will get you work. Nov 27 06 01:03 pm Link SHE is the client.. SHE is the only person that has to answer to him.. and since they are BOTH adults, you should be treating them as such.. I have shot ALL of my neighbors wives.. ALL of them.. I shot one, she spread the word.. had one husband come down while i was cutting grass to say she didnt say WHO shot her pics but he KNEW it was me and though he wanted them for years he never expected her to actually do it.. Then he looked at me and laughed knowing we now had that in common.. I have yet to have an issue with anyone but ONE boyfriend and when he realized I was bigger than him, his issues went away fairly quickly.. So be professional, do YOUR JOB and always keep a back up CD/DVD of the images in case she loses hers.. But no matter what, this isnt for YOUR portfolio.. NONE of my neighbors are in mine, that was the reason they felt comfy doing it.. Nov 27 06 01:04 pm Link The owner of a local sex shop offers this service. He is also a wedding photographer. He seems do very well. I have friends who are non-industry that do this for hubby. He seems to make a lot of money from it. Nov 27 06 01:06 pm Link I have shot a few of these. Almost all were not a problem. I even ran into one women about a year after taking her photos at the mall with her husband and she introduced me as the photographer that took the picutre of me that you really like. He looked at her and said "Oh those photos" and told how much he liked them. I had one boyfriend/fiance contact me and asked why was I at his house (she wanted them in her bed) and what kind of photos was I taking of her. I simply explained that I was a photographer and I did not have a release were I could discuss that with him. I told him to ask her or her girlfriend that was there as an escort. He called back a two weeks later and told me he was very sorry and to excuse his behavior. Since then he has referred several of his friends to me and I have shot thier family portrait for the last three years. Just stay professional and things usually work out. Also don't display them unless you have permission and always keep a back up because you never know what might happen. I had one of my clients die of breast cancer last year and the husband loved the way she looked in the photos and asked me to crop his favorite for her obituary. Nov 27 06 01:37 pm Link Your photo shoot reminds me of a similar shoot I had done about 11 years ago while I had my studio in NJ. This tall, leggy absolutely drop dead gorgeous blonde comes in and books a "sexy" shoot for her husband as a gift for Valentine Day. She's in her late 20s, maybe early 30s. Her husband from what she tells me is in his 60s!!!! Day of the shoot comes and we're doing some really good stuff and she says to me, "make them really hot because this is all he's ever going to get!" I wonder how his Valentine Day went???? Nov 27 06 03:23 pm Link My experience with this was a lady who wanted Valentine shots for her guy. With a little questioning, she said that as far as her guy was concerned, I was a female photographer. As another former Marine, I share the same feelings about the uniform. It's not sleepwear, and it's not playful, and people who don't at least get through the MCRD program really haven't earned the right to wear it. Nov 27 06 05:19 pm Link jasontheartist wrote: you only piss off the wrong person 1 time. Nov 27 06 05:48 pm Link Sleepy Weasel wrote: There is no promise how he will or will not react. It comes down to the work you do and how she delivers it. Nov 27 06 07:01 pm Link Image Video wrote: This old Army cavalryman agrees. Nov 27 06 07:02 pm Link I wouldn't rush to delete the images. How could you prove what you shot if some legal proceeding started. In this world of photoshop, there is no way to tell what could happen to the pics. Your only proof of what you shot is what you archive. Nov 27 06 07:17 pm Link Sleepy Weasel wrote: This is something I do quite often. In fact just last week a lady traveled about 1400 miles for similar shoot. Sometimes it's intended to be a surprise for the husband, sometimes he knows all about it. To the best of my knowledge and from the feedback I've received, all of the husbands loved the pix. Nov 27 06 07:34 pm Link Done TONS of these! The simpleist thing I can tell you is tell her ahead of time,,that you are gonna do 2 sets of pics and she should trust you,,,when she looks at you with that "look",,,tell her they are ALL her pics and SHE will decide what to do with them. Take all the pics she wants (each set,before changeing etc),,THEN take a few more that YOU wanna do and make her look her best. When your done and showing her the pics,,look at all hers first,,makeing comments and gathering hers,,THEN show her what YOU took and liked. It never seems to fail that she will like LOTS of yours,,its almost like a suprise. I think its all about that little "push" you might be giving her. Its a small thing But it has always helped me Tim Nov 27 06 07:55 pm Link She assured me that her wearing the uniform would be OK by him (well, actually, taking it off--tee hee). But perhaps I can convince her to do a second set with the same poses, but with different clothing. Realistically, her guy is going to be the only one to see these, so if he isn't ticked off about it, then it shouldn't be an issue. But with some of you voicing your opinions about it, I think perhaps I should have a backup plan in case he does take offense to it (and she's underestimating his reaction to it). Nov 27 06 08:13 pm Link Sorry if my question is a bit off the main discussion ... But what do you guys do if she doesn't like her pics period. I mean may be she has extra weight or something else she hates about herself and when you shoot a whole bunch, she doesn't pick any. What do you do then? Nov 27 06 09:37 pm Link TroisCouleurs wrote: I've never run into this problem before. The main reactions I seem to always get from those not in the industry is, "WOW! Is that really me? They are beautiful! What did you do to make me look so good?" Some shoots are more of a challenge than others and you just help to bring out the beauty that is within them. I had a shoot with a woman a few years back who was very selfconcious and hated her stomach because she had no belly button...you just become very creative. I don't forsee that problem ever arising. Nov 27 06 10:18 pm Link Hey just stay HONEST about the whole thing.For the wifey you only have one body do as you please keep it clean if your married and so on. Good Night Nov 27 06 10:23 pm Link |
