C R Photography wrote:

Well there's the door for a pervert to walk into

Once you knew he was doing the five-knuckle shuffle with his piss pump while looking at your images, you should have ignored him and then blocked him.

Sorry this happened to you but it sounds like you did indirectly lead him on.

LOL

Nice way to put it.  And yes I see my mistake.

Iona Lynn wrote:
I'll see you, and raise you,

I got an inquirey abut a modeling job quite a while back and nope he did not ask me if I wanted to know about his cock he just sent me several erect photos of himself. I later ran into him in a modeling networking event.........

Yummy!!!!!!

hahaha!

Iona Lynn wrote:
I'll see you, and raise you,

I got an inquirey abut a modeling job quite a while back and nope he did not ask me if I wanted to know about his cock he just sent me several erect photos of himself. I later ran into him in a modeling networking event.........

Yummy!!!!!!

Hmmm....

So, when you ran into him at the event, how did you recognize him?

LOL...

C R Photography wrote:
Sorry this happened to you but it sounds like you did indirectly lead him on.

Ditto. The more we hear of this story the more it sounds like you let it go on WAY longer than it should've. The second someone starts talking to you in a sexual way here you need to tell the mods and ignore the person.

Melvin Moten Jr wrote:

If one comment is enough to make you feel "dirty" you may just want to re-assess your carrer path.  There's a lot worse out there than that guy.  Someday I'll tell you about the 14 year old girl who changed her AIM screenmane 17 times before she got the hint that i didn't want to see pics of her spread.

...or maybe it was just NBC doing a "Dateline" special...who can tell?

Dateline was so after you.

I am here to have fun and enjoy the wonderful work all of you do, if someone gets um, excited over it, spare me the details.  Know what I mean?

Iona Lynn wrote:
I'll see you, and raise you,

I got an inquirey abut a modeling job quite a while back and nope he did not ask me if I wanted to know about his cock he just sent me several erect photos of himself. I later ran into him in a modeling networking event.........

Yummy!!!!!!

I just have to ask,
(cause I see the erect shots on LJ all the time)
Does the unsoliceted cock photo approch ever get the guy a chick?
or do they just get off on upsetting the photo recipiant?

Olaf S wrote:

Hmmm....

So, when you ran into him at the event, how did you recognize him?

LOL...

your evil Olaf .......   the were full length images I saw all of him. God it was strange when I saw him in person I just thought "oh I know this guy, but where from and smiled" Then it hit me why I recogized him......

phcorcoran wrote:
The photographer's email to you was inappropriate, but you're a 29-year-old woman and that's old enough to shrug a comment like that off.  Just don't work with him again if you now feel uncomfortable.

I should, and he shouldn't go there.  But I didn't and he did.

I've not worked with him and I never would.

Kaitlin Lara wrote:

Ditto. The more we hear of this story the more it sounds like you let it go on WAY longer than it should've. The second someone starts talking to you in a sexual way here you need to tell the mods and ignore the person.

you're right

Sinsazia wrote:

Dateline was so after you.

I am here to have fun and enjoy the wonderful work all of you do, if someone gets um, excited over it, spare me the details.  Know what I mean?

I surely speak for a minority around here but I personally love to hear that my images have the power to arouse.  Reaching people on that plane is a far bigger ego trip for me than money...underage girls notwithstanding.

Melvin Moten Jr wrote:

Cream and sugar?

Me too please...

Sinsazia wrote:

It ended with lack of response on my end and him wanting to finish the convo later.

I'll pass.

Good for you..  A lot of times stories like this (around here, anyway) end up getting weird on both ends.. Which is why we always whip out the lawn chairs and the coffee and the popcorn..  But yeah..  You did fine.. He's got me totally creeped out.. And I'm hoping a mod's tuning in.. Because I have no idea if this guy should be reported or not..  But I sure as hell wouldn't want to know him..

(And for the record, if this weren't a modeling site, and they were just chatting.. I could care less..  But it is, and they weren't, and ick..)

Iona Lynn wrote:
*Brings her laptop and melvins portfolio to bed with her on lonely nights*

Flatterer.

Sinsazia wrote:

No.  Fun, light banter.  I then told him he was at an advantage over me knowing what I look like and this was his response:

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True.  Unfortunately I don't have any pics of me on the computer as I am almost always behind the camera.  I am 5' 6" slim and toned.  Late 40's.  Salt and pepper hair.  Trimmed beard.  Greenish eyes.  Like to know about my cock?
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One of the problems with IM and e-mail is that you do not get the intonation of the message.  This is especially true if this is between people that barely know each other or only communicate through IM. Electronic communications has a way of letting personal mores down and people feel that they can be less guarded and familiar with complete strangers since there is a barrier that protects them.  The “Like to know about my cock?â€? could simply be him being badly sarcastic and you not getting it as easily as it could be him being crass and inappropriate. You don’t know.

Granting him the benefit of the doubt, I still think it’s bad form to communicate like this to a stranger that you don’t know. My initial communications with models are primarily to establish and build trust.  Trust is a necessary component for a good shoot and if that is lacking then it makes no sense to shoot.

Was this the only instance of this kind of comment? I don’t want to play “blame the victimâ€? but if it’s one instance and the OP runs to the board looking to get people riled up over something that should not have been said would sway me toward hyper-sensitivity model than over the top boorish behavior by the photographer.

To the lynch mob; slow your roll. Let’s not be so quick to rush to judgment that  this guy as a bad apple if this is just a case of bad judgment in word choice with photographer feeling more familiar and comfortable with a model and him saying something that he should not have said in the first place.

Sinsazia wrote:
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Sorry to hear that.  I like your images.  Very nice.  I was  super horny last night  and  getting into the sensual images. And you?

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Weelllllll...that's almost kind of vague.

Mickle Design Werks wrote:
To the lynch mob; slow your roll. Let’s not be so quick to rush to judgment.....

But the lynch mob is precisely the reason so many of us get a fresh cup and pull up a chair to watch it all play out.
Like the proverbial train wreck.

Iona Lynn wrote:
*Brings her laptop and melvins portfolio to bed with her on lonely nights*

You should buy one (or two or three) of Melvin's books.  That way you can have his images with you where ever you are!

*(my little secret)

Tanya Dakin wrote:
You know i always asume that the chances of a photographer later going through the images as a private collection and getting off to them are probably likely, But shit I don't wanna know about it, Not if you wanna work together again in the futer, it just crosses the line between two people in a professional relationship. and makes things Weird!

You all think we're such perverts!!!
I can't tell you how many times a model has been turned on by me shooting them sexy or nude....
It's a two way street.

Mickle Design Werks wrote:
To the lynch mob; slow your roll. Let’s not be so quick to rush to judgment that  this guy as a bad apple if this is just a case of bad judgment in word choice with photographer feeling more familiar and comfortable with a model and him saying something that he should not have said in the first place.

I think the lynch mob went for a late lunch when the "official story" changed for the third time.

Sinsazia wrote:

Kaitlin Lara wrote:
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Like to know about my cock?
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Very unprofessional. Why did you work with him again??

Sinsazia wrote:
then telling the model about it.  Does this creep you out too?

I feel so...dirty.

Totally inappropriate!!!!!!  It's one thing if he gets off in private but absolutely WRONG to discuss it with you.

Mickle Design Werks wrote:
One of the problems with IM and e-mail is that you do not get the intonation of the message.  This is especially true if this is between people that barely know each other or only communicate through IM. Electronic communications has a way of letting personal mores down and people feel that they can be less guarded and familiar with complete strangers since there is a barrier that protects them.  The “Like to know about my cock?â€? could simply be him being badly sarcastic and you not getting it as easily as it could be him being crass and inappropriate. You don’t know.

Granting him the benefit of the doubt, I still think it’s bad form to communicate like this to a stranger that you don’t know. My initial communications with models are primarily to establish and build trust.  Trust is a necessary component for a good shoot and if that is lacking then it makes no sense to shoot.

Was this the only instance of this kind of comment? I don’t want to play “blame the victimâ€? but if it’s one instance and the OP runs to the board looking to get people riled up over something that should not have been said would sway me toward hyper-sensitivity model than over the top boorish behavior by the photographer.

To the lynch mob; slow your roll. Let’s not be so quick to rush to judgment that  this guy as a bad apple if this is just a case of bad judgment in word choice with photographer feeling more familiar and comfortable with a model and him saying something that he should not have said in the first place.

First instance yes.  Last instance I'm sure not.  It happens, I know this.  As I said before, do whatever gets you your kicks but spare me the details. 

And, if I was really trying to start the drama boat, I would have publicly told everyone who this person is.

I just wanted other's opinions on whether or not it creeped them out.

Jeff Marsh wrote:
OK, here we go, move over Melvin and Collin...

*makes room on couch* ....Care for a poptart?

Iona Lynn wrote:

your evil Olaf .......   the were full length images I saw all of him. God it was strange when I saw him in person I just thought "oh I know this guy, but where from and smiled" Then it hit me why I recogized him......

Damn shame you didn't have the pictures with you.

Kaitlin Lara wrote:
Unless it was someone that I had already expressed an interest in and who I had a relationship outside of just photographer/model with...uh...yeah. That's pretty messed up. You need to tell us more about this situation...this sounds like it may be something you really need to tell the mods about.

I don't think this is a mod issue.  It was tasteless.  Perhaps he was testing waters to see if she might get excited and be into him.  very naughty flirtation.  Crossed some boundries that one should avoid.  I think if she is still interested in working with this person, she needs to either write it off an incident that'll remember to not repeat or she'll need to talk to him and make sure it doesn't happen again.

Rich Mohr wrote:

Sinsazia wrote:

Kaitlin Lara wrote:
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Like to know about my cock?
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Very unprofessional. Why did you work with him again??

again, i never worked with him.

Jeff Marsh wrote:
OK, here we go, move over Melvin and Collin...

Collin J. Rae wrote:
*makes room on couch* ....Care for a poptart?

OK... Move it along,
Nothing to see here....

Collin J. Rae wrote:

*makes room on couch* ....Care for a poptart?

Poptart?  Oh geez.

What flavor?

Sinsazia wrote:

No.  Fun, light banter.  I then told him he was at an advantage over me knowing what I look like and this was his response:

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True.  Unfortunately I don't have any pics of me on the computer as I am almost always behind the camera.  I am 5' 6" slim and toned.  Late 40's.  Salt and pepper hair.  Trimmed beard.  Greenish eyes.  Like to know about my cock?
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I'm done here.  That there set the tone.  Your response to that message would have either killed it or encouraged it.  Unless you chose not to responsed, you've already handled this issue.

Sinsazia wrote:

No.  Fun, light banter.  I then told him he was at an advantage over me knowing what I look like and this was his response:

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True.  Unfortunately I don't have any pics of me on the computer as I am almost always behind the camera.  I am 5' 6" slim and toned.  Late 40's.  Salt and pepper hair.  Trimmed beard.  Greenish eyes.  Like to know about my cock?
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Tell him: "I am not into chicken farming as a new member of PeTA.

Because of our differing philosophies... please don't contact me ever again."

Don't bother the moderators for one single inappropriate message, you are an adult and should be able to handle yourself.

If he starts to harrass you, continue the emails, etc... THEN you contact the moderators!