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I really want to know honest answers to this. Because frankly, I am just baffled. I first came into contact with this person by scanning the search for my area, he was relatively new, and I dropped him a tag and a few comments into his port to say welcome and hello, being the nice person that I am. Then I recieved a note that read as follows: "hey nc- nice nips. would like to see more. thanks, (name with held to protect...er... well. Name is just with held)" Ok, so males (I can't single out photographers here, even though he was... this is more of a male thing...) I want to know if this kind of approach ever works with a lady? Has any guy used this type of um, come on (? for lack of a better word...?) and had a lady reveal more? Does this ever work? Or am I just the strange one that finds this type of approach to be quite a turn off. And ladies, I would like to know if any of you would respond positively and give him what he wants to see. Are there any of you that would show him more images? I am very curious to know how this kind of a situation would play out amongst others. I certainly don't appreciate this kind of approach, its pretty crude in my opinion, and I find it lacking in simple respect. Opinions welcome! May 19 06 08:11 pm Link I think he was a jerk. May 19 06 08:14 pm Link it's sad to see that that type response is going out and, much as i like to be non-judgemental, i too would be turned off by that kind of message. close the door, accept that the 'Net has some strange characters, exercise your best common sense, and move on. best wishes for better in the future! fml May 19 06 08:14 pm Link NC17 wrote: Yuck. Maybe he meant to say "pics." He probably feels very embarassed. May 19 06 08:14 pm Link No I would not respond to this...would you show him more if he walked up to you in a bar and said this to you???I think not!!! May 19 06 08:16 pm Link course it doesnt work why they all keep trying this? becuase they are jerks and they dont even expect it to its thinly vielled hostility, not a compliment ps On a simlar note :Have you gals ever passed by someone in the street / wherever and actually thought they look really cute or something... then they turn around with some horrible sound or nasty line - so you are now OBLIGED to walk away?? LOL Aways a shame. Happens a lot in Europe...anyway! May 19 06 08:16 pm Link Maybe it has something to do with your name being NC17.... May 19 06 08:20 pm Link Must resist urge to say..... Hey NC, nice nips! Damn... slipped out. May 19 06 08:21 pm Link Well it wouldn't be my first reply back to you, but I guess it attracts the kind of gal he wants to deal with otherwise it's a pretty stupid thing to say as a reply back to you. While I can see is preoccupation with your nipple (quite lovey I must also agree), I am an ass man myself. And regarding the beforemention behind.....Ah, I remember a nice sunny summer morning in Georgetown..... May 19 06 08:26 pm Link Highly inappropriate based on the caliber of your work. Internet scum. - Just scrape it off your shoe and move on. May 19 06 08:26 pm Link ps Not to criicise at all but maybe the flirting on your page is the reason here though... ''I have a very naughty NC17 rated center. Try me...you'll like. Promise.'' So what is NC 17 ? it made me think if Star Trek.... ;-) May 19 06 08:27 pm Link Mickle Design Werks wrote: I see your point. Hey NC, nice butt! May 19 06 08:28 pm Link he's a punk ass bitch! May 19 06 08:29 pm Link Anjel Britt wrote: NC 17 is the rating that comes after R in the movie rating system. May 19 06 08:31 pm Link Nemi wrote: I think it is less about gratuitous sex, and more about explicit sex, but in the context of an actual movie. And I beleive it also covers other territory that is considered too strong for younger viewers. May 19 06 08:36 pm Link Mikel Featherston wrote: You are right. May 19 06 08:39 pm Link Nemi wrote: You made my day! I mean, some men can go a lifetime before being told by a woman that they are right! May 19 06 08:42 pm Link Anjel Britt wrote: Which region in Europe are you talking about? May 19 06 08:42 pm Link Nemi wrote: You are correct about the NC17 reference. My life is often a duality between those people that are aware of my connections to many adult things, and those that are not. Theres not a thing wrong with this, and I happen to enjoy it. May 19 06 08:43 pm Link UdoR wrote: Thay dunt teach us sillay americanz about differnt cuntries. May 19 06 08:44 pm Link NC17 wrote: But is he using vinegar, or some nasty sugar substitute that no self-respecting fly would touch? May 19 06 08:45 pm Link Perhaps after you get to know someone, and depending on the type of relationship you have, comments like that would be no big deal. They might even be welcomed. But to say (write) such things to a relative stranger is just crass. Just my two cents. May 19 06 08:47 pm Link And yes, I remember a certain morning along that canal... Lovely morning, if not for the bugs May 19 06 08:48 pm Link NC17 wrote: and I am telling you why...sexual beings are more willing to show off the goods. Imply you are one, and people will be inclined to ask for more. NC17 wrote: You'll catch more cooch with porn than nuns. May 19 06 08:48 pm Link Nemi wrote: How many drinks have you had tonight? May 19 06 08:49 pm Link It was simply boorish. May 19 06 08:55 pm Link sooo cool after coming here many years and living in CA since last September i finally get someone here who knows and get them to say it!! Europe is not a country!! yay thanks Udo! ps I meant all over, European Stylie, as compared with USA ... I'm sure the men here are more polite - what with the guns and everything - but Let Me Say that LONDON IS practically Europe these days! Hardly any one English left!!! As for aggressive - Hmm Italian men are bolder and harder to get rid of in my experience yes...but thats neither here nor there in my remark re i am just sooo disappointed if the guy is tacky or rude - Say he speaks English and says something really naff or crass - what are we gals supposed to say?? OH ALRIGHT THEN LETS GO ;-) I dont think so! May 19 06 08:56 pm Link Mikel Featherston wrote: I have pulled 5 all nighters out of the last 7 days, I have also consumed WAY to many sweet&lows today....I suppose that would produce an awesomely drunk effect. May 19 06 08:58 pm Link Nemi wrote: So do you attract more flies? May 19 06 09:00 pm Link Mikel Featherston wrote: Only the non-self-respecting ones. May 19 06 09:02 pm Link Nemi wrote: *laughs* Who would want self respecting flies anyway??? May 19 06 09:07 pm Link Dear NC, You rule. Love, Me. Okay, seriously...everything you said was so right on. What makes men think such an approach will be successful? It's like when you walk down the street and some guy has to yell "Hey, nice tits!" or something along those lines. What kind of response is he expecting, that you'll rip off your clothes right there and do him in the street? Has anybody ever heard The Story of How The Parents Met where Mom is all, "Well, he told me I had great nipples, and next thing you know we were walking down the aisle!" GAH. Though, to go a bit off-topic, the comment about "fakey sugar" also rang a bell... There's a photographer in my area who is ALWAYS gushing about how I'm soooo beautiful, I should model full-time and make a ton of money, always trying to rub my back and hug me when he sees me, etc. When I told him, after he asked me "what turns [me] on about a guy" (EW), that people who load me with superficial compliments turn me off, he whined that I don't like "guys who are nice" to me. Um...there's a difference between being genuinely nice, and being fakey-fake "nice" to try to get into someone's pants, and a smart girl CAN tell. I'm not the only one who has run into photogs like this, am I? May 19 06 09:08 pm Link Anjel Britt wrote: Well... maybe because I was born and raised in Euroland May 19 06 09:08 pm Link As a breast man, I have admitted before I am very impressed when I see a a photo of some great breast... But I do keep my Wow's and Holy Smokes, look at that rack comments to myself. I might leave a comment that I like a shot or something to that affect, but to come right out and say Nice tits or what ever is just plan rude and crude. For a guy to leave NC a comment of Nice nips is just that... Rude and Crude. May 19 06 09:11 pm Link Nips? Has he been watching Seinfeld reruns? Really, who the hell even says "nips" anymore?? Never respond to losers like that because it only encourages them. And remember that the guys who send messages like that are universally living in their parents' basements and attending Star Trek conventions. PS: Name the guy. Why protect him??? May 19 06 09:17 pm Link Dark Star Photography wrote: Against MM policy, I think. May 19 06 09:23 pm Link UdoR wrote: those damned foriegners !!!!!!!!!!!! May 19 06 09:31 pm Link He said that to get a reaction so.... yes it does (and did) work. May 19 06 09:32 pm Link Were I in a pool hall... ...and had consumed some alcohol... ...I might compliment a particularily flirtatious female player... ...by saying "Nice rack". Scrape this guy off the bottom of your shoes. He's probably not even 18. May 19 06 09:33 pm Link David Birdsong wrote: Thats the defining thing: I don't care that you're admiring, hell, its NICE to know that someone admires. Ginuine complements go a very long way to make me smile and feel good. Even flustered complements are ok to a degree (depending on the situation). However, crude and lewd comments are not acceptable, and will pretty much guarantee that I'll go pull on the biggest fluffiest unsexiest sweatshirt I have at that point. You get less than nothing when you're rude to me. May 19 06 09:51 pm Link |