NC17 wrote:
I really want to know honest answers to this. Because frankly, I am just baffled.

I first came into contact with this person by scanning the search for my area, he was relatively new, and I dropped him a tag and a few comments into his port to say welcome and hello, being the nice person that I am.

Then I recieved a note that read as follows:

"hey nc-

nice nips. would like to see more.

thanks,

(name with held to protect...er... well. Name is just with held)"

Ok, so males (I can't single out photographers here, even though he was... this is more of a male thing...) I want to know if this kind of approach ever works with a lady? Has any guy used this type of um, come on (? for lack of a better word...?) and had a lady reveal more? Does this ever work? Or am I just the strange one that finds this type of approach to be quite a turn off.


And ladies, I would like to know if any of you would respond positively and give him what he wants to see. Are there any of you that would show him more images?

I am very curious to know how this kind of a situation would play out amongst others. I certainly don't appreciate this kind of approach, its pretty crude in my opinion, and I find it lacking in simple respect.

Opinions welcome!

Yuck.  Maybe he meant to say "pics."  He probably feels very embarassed.
Or he's just a douche.  :0).

Mickle Design Werks wrote:
While I can see is preoccupation with your nipple (quite lovey I must also agree), I am an ass man myself. And regarding the beforemention behind.....Ah, I remember a nice sunny summer morning in Georgetown.....

I see your point. Hey NC, nice butt!


(MY inside voice has taken control of my hands! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!)

Anjel Britt wrote:
ps

Not to criicise at all but maybe the flirting on your page is the reason here though...


''I have a very naughty NC17 rated center.
Try me...you'll like. Promise.''


So what is NC 17 ?
it made me think if Star Trek....

;-)

NC 17 is the rating that comes after R in the movie rating system.
Usually used for Gratuitous sex. It is the replacement term for what used to be the X rating... well we all know what that is.

Nemi wrote:

NC 17 is the rating that comes after R in the movie rating system.
Usually used for Gratuitous sex. It is the replacement term for what used to be the X rating... well we all know what that is.

I think it is less about gratuitous sex, and more about explicit sex, but in the context of an actual movie. And I beleive it also covers other territory that is considered too strong for younger viewers.

The straight up meaning is that no one under the age of 17 is allowed to enter the theater, even if they have an adult with them.

Mikel Featherston wrote:

I think it is less about gratuitous sex, and more about explicit sex, but in the context of an actual movie. And I beleive it also covers other territory that is considered too strong for younger viewers.

The straight up meaning is that no one under the age of 17 is allowed to enter the theater, even if they have an adult with them.

You are right.

Nemi wrote:

You are right.

You made my day! I mean, some men can go a lifetime before being told by a woman that they are right!

Anjel Britt wrote:
Happens a lot in Europe...anyway!

Which region in Europe are you talking about?

BTW, situations like what you describe happens a lot in Italy or Southern France, you know, the whistling and comments and less common in Northern Europe.

You are from GB and should know the difference of "aggressivness" if you compare GB and Italy for example.

Nemi wrote:

NC 17 is the rating that comes after R in the movie rating system.
Usually used for Gratuitous sex. It is the replacement term for what used to be the X rating... well we all know what that is.

You are correct about the NC17 reference. My life is often a duality between those people that are aware of my connections to many adult things, and those that are not. Theres not a thing wrong with this, and I happen to enjoy it.

I am curious to know when tasteful flirting acceptably warrents rude and lewd behavior? Why is that acceptable? It suddenly becomes acceptable for a man to be rude and lewd when a woman expresses her sexuality and sensuality in a playful manner? How did I miss that memo? Why do people continue to further this double standard?

For whatever it is worth, I am not angry, upset, enraged or otherwise pissed off at the person that sent me the message. Saddened that they, for whatever odd reason, assume that it would actually *get* them somewhere, yes. But not angry.

I did send him a simple response that only said "pardon me" since I wanted to be sure that I clearly understood exactly what he was after. The only thing I recieved in response was "more nudes" and that was IT. I politely sent him a response directing him to my profile to find my rates, and informed him that nothing comes for free.

I really was curious to know if other males actually thought this was an acceptable approach, and WHY. I can't fathom to think of why any male would get any positive response from a woman using this type of tactic.  I don't mind getting occassional cat calls, whistles or "damn she's fine" type comments. They simply make me smile under my breath and move on. But an attempt such as this is really just plain rude and disrespectful.

You'll catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

UdoR wrote:

Europe is not a country, you know... there are different countries, different languages and way different manners and customs.

Which region in Europe are you talking about?

BTW, situations like what you describe happens a lot in Italy or Southern France.

Thay dunt teach us sillay americanz about differnt cuntries.
We r geographicly retardeds.

NC17 wrote:
You'll catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

But is he using vinegar, or some nasty sugar substitute that no self-respecting fly would touch?

NC17 wrote:
I really was curious to know if other males actually thought this was an acceptable approach, and WHY. I can't fathom to think of why any male would get any positive response from a woman using this type of tactic.

and I am telling you why...sexual beings are more willing to show off the goods. Imply you are one, and people will be inclined to ask for more.

NC17 wrote:
...You'll catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

You'll catch more cooch with porn than nuns.

Nemi wrote:
You'll catch more cooch with porn than nuns.

How many drinks have you had tonight?

Mikel Featherston wrote:
How many drinks have you had tonight?

I have pulled 5 all nighters out of the last 7 days, I have also consumed WAY to many sweet&lows today....I suppose that would produce an awesomely drunk effect.
*shrug*
Siiiiiiiiiiiip, hmmm fake sugar. *twitch*

Nemi wrote:
Siiiiiiiiiiiip, hmmm fake sugar. *twitch*

So do you attract more flies?

Mikel Featherston wrote:
So do you attract more flies?

Only the non-self-respecting ones.

Nemi wrote:

Only the non-self-respecting ones.

*laughs* Who would want self respecting flies anyway???

Anjel Britt wrote:
sooo cool
after coming here many years and living in CA since last September i finally get someone here who knows and get them to say it!! Europe is not a country!! yay thanks Udo!

Well... maybe because I was born and raised in Euroland

Dark Star Photography wrote:
PS:  Name the guy.  Why protect him???

Against MM policy, I think.

UdoR wrote:
Well... maybe because I was born and raised in Euroland

those damned foriegners !!!!!!!!!!!!

David Birdsong wrote:
As a breast man, I have admitted before I am very impressed when I see a a photo of some great breast...
But I do keep my Wow's and Holy Smokes, look at that rack comments to myself.
I might leave a comment that I like a shot or something to that affect, but to come right out and say Nice  tits or what ever is just plan rude and crude.
For a guy to leave NC a comment of Nice nips is just that... Rude and Crude.

Thats the defining thing: I don't care that you're admiring, hell, its NICE to know that someone admires. Ginuine complements go a very long way to make me smile and feel good. Even flustered complements are ok to a degree (depending on the situation). However, crude and lewd comments are not acceptable, and will pretty much guarantee that I'll go pull on the biggest fluffiest unsexiest sweatshirt I have at that point. You get less than nothing when you're rude to me.

Be nice to me, and kind, a little humorous, and flirty (without overstepping your bounds... I have a boyfriend, and several partners in fact... so don't go there), and you'll likely get something out of the deal...

I'm confident and comfortable in my sexuality. Complements are welcome. Rudeness is not, and that applies across the board to whatever I'm involved in - sex or not.