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Telling women they are beautiful
R. Olson (RO) wrote: Yeah, lets give the men a break. They can't all get their feet out of their mouths as gracefully as I can...lol Apr 13 06 06:56 pm Link Lapis wrote: Yes! Absolutely! And our significant other's shouldn't get weird or freak out... (my current one doesn't.. thankfully). It's not about a competition... it's just stating your feelings and that should always be valid. Apr 13 06 06:56 pm Link Remember that line from Citizen Kane (my very favorite line of the film, by the way)? "I only saw her for one second. She didn't see me at all. But I'll bet a month hasn't gone by since then that I haven't still thought of her." Apr 13 06 06:57 pm Link Gregory Garecki wrote: I agree with this. Instead of all of this pussyfooting around, tell someone. Apr 13 06 06:58 pm Link Lapis wrote: interesting ..... i'd have thought you'd say 20x as weird. Weird! Apr 13 06 06:58 pm Link A question for Lapis: Would you rather have someone tell you you're beautiful after a moment's glance or tell you after an actual interaction that you're intriguing - or interesting? Apr 13 06 07:02 pm Link Ian Weintraub wrote: I think the top adjectives used to describe me are: funny, weird, crazy, etc. Today some photographer told me that what I had that a lot of women lacked was GUSTO! That is good. I would rather be all those things than beautiful and vacous...so I guess if the only compliments someone gets is "you are beautiful" they may start to feel that the only cool thing about them is that they look good...that could be problematic. Apr 13 06 07:05 pm Link pw-gii photographics wrote: funny, I was writing about that exact thing when you posted. I would pick #2....and I guess that intriguing is my favorite....but beautiful and intriguing after a few drinks is best, but then that could be construed as 'hitting on' and then we are in a total different realm. Still, this is a pretty broad(get it...) Apr 13 06 07:08 pm Link Yeah. You do have to be careful with happens after those few drinks.  Apr 13 06 07:11 pm Link Lapis wrote: If it's honest and sincere, it's honest and sincere. That's pretty nice to hear. Apr 13 06 07:12 pm Link well the best way to say it is first..know who you are working with first. Different personalities take things differently. Some will take it as a compliment others won't. He doesn't have to necessarily have to say that they're beautiful to get his point across them. Apr 13 06 07:24 pm Link Lapis wrote: I'd say "You got nice energy" .... The models who stand out for me, are no doubt physically beautiful, but they also have this warm glow about them, that they exude in their pictures. Apr 13 06 07:40 pm Link MarkMarek wrote: Whoo HOO!!! LOL Apr 13 06 07:57 pm Link Oh man! dont you know anything! Just come right out and say.. NICE RACK! Geezzzzz! Apr 13 06 08:00 pm Link Angel Tara wrote: WOW! .. Angel, you are stunningly beautiful! Apr 13 06 08:43 pm Link We were getting close to getting somewhere. Apr 14 06 05:24 am Link Lapis wrote: Tell him that it's easier when you're holding a camera. He could also wear a measuring tape around his neck and say it with relative comfort. However, tell him never to hold a clipboard and tell a woman she's beautiful. Apr 14 06 05:28 am Link I told a model she was beautiful multiple times yesterday.. And I wasn't even trying to get laid.. Screw it.. You spend your whole damn life head down, nose to the grindstone.. Either restricted by conformity from speaking your mind, or too damned distracted to stop and smell the roses.. I don't know about other people.. But I do this (photography), because I wanted one aspect of my life where I could call a rose, "a rose," and hopefully let the world see beauty like I see it. I don't care what they do with it.. I don't even care if they agree.. But if you don't "see" you don't live, and if you don't "express" you might as well not live. Apr 14 06 12:59 pm Link Since I'm female and _think_ it's obvious I'm not hitting on the girls, I overdo it sometimes. I get excited with what I see and just have to express it by yelling weird stuff. Sometimes it confuses people on the shoot .. Example in my reply to the first comment here https://www.modelmayhem.com/pic.php?pic … 0ed34cccec I have been more careful since Apr 14 06 02:30 pm Link As a photographer, I give both male and female models verbal encouragement and interaction when I work with them...silent photographers, while they can be good photographers, are going to have to work with a model who doesn't need any direction whatsoever, which is going to lead to less facial expression in the model, which can be either a good or a bad thing. However, I have found that positive interaction with the models gives for more actual facial expressions, and I like 'real'. Apr 14 06 02:33 pm Link Lapis, you are beautiful. Having talked to you more, you are even more interesting and more beautiful inside. * See how easy it is? * When political correctness gets to compliment, it's getting sad. Apr 14 06 02:37 pm Link MarkMarek wrote: mmm I like that ; ) Apr 14 06 02:39 pm Link Thank god for Xanax! It prevents those embarassing bulges. No rise in the Levis when you look into their eyes. Apr 14 06 02:42 pm Link Fred MIller wrote: Xanax actually relaxes a lot of people into having a HIGHER sex drive, but if it mellows you out all the way through, good to have around for those shoots. Apr 14 06 02:44 pm Link ~Krista~ wrote: Oh damn...that explains a recen...(Never Mind) :> Apr 14 06 02:47 pm Link i struggle with this issue in both my personal and "professional" life. of course everybody thinks all kinds of things that they don't say, about people and their bodies, as well as everything else. the question of whether or not to comment on a woman's appearance is a question of tact. there are far more inappropriate ways to say a woman is beautiful (or whatever variation thereof) than there are tactful, well-placed words of encouragement. Apr 14 06 02:47 pm Link hI wEll, iN MY USA EXPERIENCE VERY FEW OF THEM REALY need THE ENCOURAGE MENT THAT THEY LOOK GOOD! tHEY KNOW THAT. hENCE THEY OFFER TO WORK AS MODELS. tHIS was not IN THE CONTEXT OF A SHOOT...? so iF HE CARES ABOUT HOW WOMEN FEEL (AND IS NOT HITTING ON THEM) MAYBE HE MIGHT CONSIDER TELLING PEOPLE / WOMEN HE MEETS WHO ARE not SET UP AS MODELS THAT THEY LOOK GREAT. THAT would help MAKE them & THE WORLD A HAPPIER PLACE! Apr 14 06 03:12 pm Link Hi Everyone!! I certainly have a lot to say about this comment so please hear me out. My boyfriend is a well known photographer in this website and we've worked with some of the MM models together. He is professional in the shoot and I understand that sometimes he wants to say certain things that will get the model in the right mood to get the best shots, however it is not apropriate to use words that are suggestive and/or arousing to the model or the Photographer for that matter. It is in the intention, the choice of words and the tone that will dictate how things are being said or perceived. It is not acceptable to get suggestive in any way by saying "you are hot" "Excuisite body" "Excite Me""You are the Photographers Dream Model" "I CAN"T WAIT" to shoot you again or in a physical way such as touching the model's hair or shoulder etc.. these comments not only are suggestive,but portray too much excitement specially if combined with much flirtation and laughter and intense eye contact with the models. A lot of models may had just started out, they need the compliments they perhaps are not getting at home or in their relationship so from a woman's point of view no matter their age, these comments can be perceived as the photographer is interested in her or hitting on her. So, to make you feel more comfortable in complimenting your model and your girlfriend at peace "KEEP IT SIMPLE AND NOT PERSONAL" use phrases such as " great pose" great smile" "good job" "beautifu" "That looks lovely" "great" "great expression" "That looks beautiful" If what you are proud of is the work you are getting from the model, compliment the work and the action "NOT THE MODEL" in such personal and suggestive way. I hope this helps and gives everyone a different insight from a woman/model/photographer point of view. Apr 14 06 03:16 pm Link Lapis wrote: Wait until you are old enough to be their father. Apr 14 06 03:18 pm Link To Gregory Garecky Photographer' You had just said everything I belive in and I wanted to say. I admire your honesty and the carefully chosen words to this comment. I can tell that you are a true professional. way to go and keep up the great work. sincerily Claudia Brunni(model#52509) Apr 14 06 03:21 pm Link FabioTovar wrote: LOL hey baby.. was your daddy a baker? cuz you've got some nice buns *wink* Apr 14 06 03:23 pm Link Acid-Candy wrote: HAHHAHA good one Apr 14 06 03:27 pm Link Claudia Brunni wrote: Thank you! Apr 14 06 03:29 pm Link That's why I want that damn time machine. Minus five minutes, re-phrase untill it somehow comes out right. Chalk one up, move on. Apr 14 06 10:44 pm Link Women appreciate honesty. So, stand in front of a mirror and practice looking honest. Apr 15 06 12:13 am Link MarkMarek wrote: And if you're on MM you had better have an American Express with no spending limit. Apr 15 06 12:15 am Link Lapis wrote: Actually I deal with this too. Giving a female model a compliment without being too personal or making them think your hitting on them. Apr 15 06 12:21 am Link Vivus Denuo wrote: Yes honesty is very important. I sincerely cant give any kind of compliment unless its truly what I think and feel from a photo. Apr 15 06 12:27 am Link |
