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How many photographers here have dealt with random anonymous hate messages? I just got a Yahoo IM stating that "I am a loser and I have a horrible reputation, blah, blah, blah.." I have mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, I'm flattered that someone was jealous enough to take the time to Instant Message me. On the other hand, I wonder if certain models I have worked with are out there spreading lies. If you have received messages like this, does it bother you? And why do these cowards always hide behind anonymity? Feb 14 06 05:35 pm Link I didn't know you could IM without e-mail address shown? And they hide behind anonymity because they ARE cowards. I think that is really weird. As a model as well as a photographer, I don't give my IM to very many people at all, therefore minimizing the hatemail on that end. I have gotten a few as a moderator, but they are generally incoherent and basically pretty funny for us mods to share with each other after we have dinked the member who threatened us. Feb 14 06 05:38 pm Link I have not personally received any hate mail...but quite a few people I know have and some aren't even photographers. I feel if people are bashing on you for no reason you must be doing something right and they are suffering from envy and jealousy. Now if you gave them a reason to hate you then thats another story lol Feb 14 06 05:38 pm Link John Jebbia wrote: It could have been worse. Feb 14 06 05:38 pm Link Sirensong wrote: I don't know that that is worse per se, but it is definitely disgusting. Feb 14 06 05:42 pm Link I get hate mail all the time. Lots of people seem personally threatened by me and what I do. I get it either through my website, or through deviantART, on which I am active. In an unmoderated arena, such as email or instant message, you can't take any retributive action. Your only real choices are either to let it bother you, or not to worry about it. It used to hurt my feelings, and I shed more than a few tears over it at first, but over time it has stopped bothering me. I've decided that the consistency of it and the totally incoherent, foaming-at-the-mouth rage that is always present indicate two things: 1. Behavior like that says a lot more about that person than it does about me; and 2. I must be doing something right if what I do gets so many people so emotional. Now it only gets to me when I'm PMSing. Feb 14 06 05:47 pm Link I wish I got hate mail I agree with shyly again lol if you doing something to disturb people your doing something to make them think. Feb 14 06 05:51 pm Link I got hate mail when I banned someone for harassing models. Anonymous coward. Feb 14 06 06:07 pm Link Ched wrote: Why didn't you share it with the other mods so we could laugh at them....most hate mail is incoherent in my experience. That makes it a source of amusement....That and untrimmed cuticles Feb 14 06 06:08 pm Link Yep... just posted a 'Haterade Message' last week: https://www.modelmayhem.com/posts.php?thread_id=29398 Feb 14 06 06:13 pm Link ~Krista~ wrote: Just a twit blowing off steam, no harm done. Feb 14 06 06:37 pm Link I once got an ICQ telling me I'd go to hell if I don't convert. I told him/her I'd see him/her there then blocked him/her. Feb 14 06 06:40 pm Link lll wrote: Classic! Feb 14 06 06:46 pm Link well I guess it's time to update your profile to say something to the effect that you create images that invoke emotional response! Feb 14 06 06:48 pm Link Pie Bear gets more hate mail than I do. He's kind of an arrogant prick--but that's because he gets all kinds of hot models. Feb 14 06 06:54 pm Link Brian Diaz wrote: An inanimate object gets more hate mail then you do? Maybe I should get dildo bear or something. Feb 14 06 07:09 pm Link Brian Diaz wrote: It's the bowtie. Bowties are hot. Feb 14 06 07:10 pm Link Hmm....All these replies saying getting hate mail means you're doing something right.........Then I want some damnit!!! Feb 14 06 07:27 pm Link John Jebbia wrote: Greetings, Feb 14 06 07:31 pm Link I got one in 1999. The writer spewed about how my "art" was a joke within the whole West Coast art community. I replied that it was good to be known in any manner within the whole West Coast art community. I suspect I know who did it, but don't remember his name. He's pretty much disappeared now. -Don Feb 14 06 08:12 pm Link John Jebbia wrote: Not me. But then, when it comes to me, what's not to love? Feb 14 06 08:34 pm Link I got one just a couple of days after first becoming active on this and a couple of other model pages. All it said was "freak". However, after thinking about it a moment, I took it as a "compliment" of sorts, as that's what I've obviously been striving to be most of my life. : ) What irked me the most was that they didn't have the balls to leave their name. You are so right in your observances! : ) "1. Behavior like that says a lot more about that person than it does about me; and 2. I must be doing something right if what I do gets so many people so emotional." Shyly wrote: Feb 14 06 08:39 pm Link It happens every now and then. Once even got a hate note left at a gallery, specifically referencing the work hanging on the walls, and anonymous of course... the curator was so worried, hesitant to show it to me until I told them basically the same thing several of you have said: Good. We provoked an emotional response from someone. That's what we're here for. Feb 14 06 08:50 pm Link hmm, i get nothing but marriage proposals from beautiful seductive models telling me how they can wait to make passionate love to me every day (well ok, they all live in Russia) Feb 14 06 08:54 pm Link Select Models wrote: Was it lemon-lime or glacier freeze haterade? Feb 14 06 09:21 pm Link A world of hating... welcome to the industry. Feb 14 06 09:55 pm Link i have never gotten hate mail before but some on text message me accused me of cheating on her and her and the kids where leaving then i got a text message last month invitinting me to meet at a restaurant then what would happen after dinner this person keep text me many times huny arnt you calling and getting more explsied it was hard to tell my girl friend that i had NO idea who it was (she was just laffing) i finally called them and told them that they had been texting the wrong person well they where quite inbarest lol Feb 14 06 10:11 pm Link |