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...finish last? "He's such a teddy bear." Question to the panel: Is it a good thing to be a nice guy? Uh, as far as photography goes or something... -D Jan 24 06 06:39 pm Link Nice guys? Well, my bestfriend is constantly telling me "you're a real asshole" and I trust her judgement ... well, most of the time.  Jan 24 06 06:43 pm Link it works for me I got no time to waste on hatin' Jan 24 06 06:49 pm Link I don't know... I don't think nice guys get turned down for photo shoots. Jan 24 06 06:54 pm Link Yes it is good to be a nice guy. nice comes in handy when your stuck nekked of a rock in 50 degree weather. or introduce you to others and help you meet new photographers. nice photogs don't insult you if you say you don't want wine. I have met a few photogs that are very pompus. Jan 24 06 06:55 pm Link Iona Lynn wrote: Hey, if I make it up there, or you down here can I be nice to you? Jan 24 06 06:56 pm Link Treat others how you wish to be treated. I like being treated nicely Jan 24 06 06:58 pm Link Interesting! Most of the time I've been called a nice guy, but there are a few people who think I'm a real asshole too! I am happy with who I am! It doesn't concern me if anyone doesn't like me, because I am who I am, and don't care to change for anyone else. There always will be those who just don't like you no matter how nice you are ... hows it go now? You can be a fool some of the time, but you can't be a fool all the time? LOL yea, I know that's not exactly it, but I do come in contact with some people who I just don't want to work with ... nothing bad about myself or that person. We just don't get along. Otherwise, it's good if most people like you! Jan 24 06 07:19 pm Link Patrick Walberg wrote: Actually, I think it IS possible to be a fool all of the time. Jan 24 06 07:20 pm Link I'd rather be known as a nice guy, than you. I like to know someone before I allow my politically incorrect sense of humor out of the bag. Jan 24 06 07:22 pm Link Richard Beebe wrote: It takes too much energy to remember who I can be myself around. Jan 24 06 07:26 pm Link I like to think I'm a nice guy and since many of the girls I have shot with keep coming back to me, I must be doing something right. In fact, one asked ME take photos of her while she's pregnant. Just did that last Sunday. Jan 24 06 07:27 pm Link DigitalCMH wrote: Lucky man. I've been wanting to get ahold of a pregnant model for a while. Problem is that I am looking to do simple nudes and abstracts. Jan 24 06 07:28 pm Link Mean or people with hatred in their hearts suck! Jan 24 06 07:32 pm Link I prefer to be the nice guy - especially when I'm in the presence of a bastard. It just makes me seem that much nicer by contrast. Generally, a little kindness and compassion go a long way. You don't have to suffer fools and be a doormat to be nice, just don't be too impressed with yourself, and be prepared to admit when you don't know something. "The bigger the talk, the smaller the co..." well, you get the point. Jan 24 06 07:33 pm Link Mikel Featherston wrote: I have been thinking of a trip to so cal LA soon. Jan 24 06 08:39 pm Link Iona Lynn wrote: I have been known to drive up to LA on occasion. If the timing ends up right, I'd love the chance to meet with you. Jan 24 06 08:40 pm Link I have the feeling that on my tombstone it will read "nice guy" grs Jan 24 06 08:45 pm Link grsphoto wrote: Hey, consider yourself lucky! Think of the 'not nice' guys who ended up dumped in the backwoods, without a tombstone. Or the ones who ended up as pig food. Jan 24 06 08:47 pm Link Works for me  I'm really only an asshole when I need to be. The rest of the time I am a sweetheart Jan 24 06 08:48 pm Link I think it pays off over time. It may suck once in awhile when someone takes advantage of you, but in the long run, you will be better off. Nice guys -> You gotta love 'em. Jan 24 06 10:19 pm Link oh yeah, and karma. Jan 24 06 10:20 pm Link I'd been pondering this topic for some time. Interesting topic in conjunction with the previous "deathly shy" thread. Personally, I've never had that certain arrogance about me that translates wonderfully in the world of human courtship. However, my generally nice, sometimes-wacky, easy-going, attentive and respectful demeanor fits perfectly into a more professional setting and it seems to do wonders at putting the models I've worked with at ease and making for a comfortable and lighthearted environment (or so I'm told...  ). I guess whether that's considered finishing last or not all depends on your intent. Jan 25 06 02:35 am Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: Yes, of course. It never hurts to be a gracious gentleman. Jan 25 06 07:32 pm Link Sorry, .. had to delete this post Jan 25 06 07:38 pm Link Me? A gentleman at all times, but... 51% nice guy. 49% asshole. Just don't test my limits and everything will be fine. Jan 25 06 07:44 pm Link Yes, nice guys do finish last but.... They at least finish. Assholes never make it through the whole race (unless, of course, they have the help of a nice guy!). Jan 25 06 09:59 pm Link I don't know about the rest of the world, but here in Miami, the assholes are the ones that "get all the girls" . . Never could quite figure that one out  Jan 25 06 10:01 pm Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: For being a photog, nice guy always better for business... Jan 25 06 10:04 pm Link Despite the subject matter of my shoots, most models I work with consider me to be a pretty nice guy. I do my best to make sure everyone is happy during and after the shoot, plus we have fun at the shoot. More often than not we have to take breaks so the models (and everyone else) can get the giggles out of their systems....and at the end of the shoot, there's always hugs for everyone. Jan 26 06 08:00 am Link grsphoto wrote: My tombstone is going to say "I'm not even supposed to be here today!" Jan 26 06 08:46 am Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: Just be into your photography and be yourself....there simply is no rule here. Jan 26 06 08:51 am Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: Oh my gosh, has someone accused you of being nice? Jan 26 06 09:02 am Link Bad Boys rule. Jan 26 06 09:05 am Link DawnElizabeth Moderator wrote: then they come for you....bad boys ,bad boys ,whatcha' gonna do when they come for you, Jan 26 06 09:19 am Link Mikel Featherston wrote: Yes, nice guys do. And the guys that seem to work consistently are the ones who usually come across (to me, anyways) as arrogant a$$holes. No Eric, I'm not singling you out! ;-) Jan 26 06 11:09 am Link Second Glance wrote: But that is appearance, not personality. Jan 26 06 11:12 am Link Mikel Featherston wrote: But I think your appearance colors people's perception of you. Think of going on a job interview in a nice suit compared to going in cargo pants and a t-shirt. Regardless of what you say or how you act, people will judge you from your visual. Jan 26 06 11:18 am Link Second Glance wrote: Good points. Jan 26 06 11:23 am Link Craig Thomson wrote: yup... nice is the way to go. Personally, I find it difficult to be any different. I have no time for hate or haters. Jan 26 06 11:24 am Link |
