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Miles Chandler wrote: Honestly, if the photographer freaked out on her after she gave an actual reason instead of some vague excuse... he isn't worth working with. He just shows that he is a temperamental diva. Jan 08 07 04:55 pm Link Miles Chandler wrote: i dont think that i need to explain myself anymore ...... Jan 08 07 04:55 pm Link NancyJ wrote: as a photographer I have zero tolerance for flakey models. I do have sympathy for family emergencies as well as personal emergencies. Jan 08 07 04:58 pm Link Don't worry my dear. There are few selfish photographers around who think they are somebody. Simply they are jerk. It would be better not around their stupid ego. Move on. Jan 08 07 04:58 pm Link Mikes Images - Mike #4 wrote: Ditto. Jan 08 07 05:01 pm Link By the way, you have great work. Jan 08 07 05:01 pm Link Couture Imagery wrote: Probably why agencies exist. Jan 08 07 05:04 pm Link NancyJ wrote: Sigh. No of course you don't "need" to do anything. But you started an entire thread just to ask why a photographer was rude to you, and every response you've gotten is completely meaningless because we don't know what he said that you considered "rude" , or what your excuse really was. All people can do (and they have) is say "Awww.. he's a jerk", even though they have no idea if that would be their opinion if they knew the facts. Jan 08 07 05:04 pm Link Aaron S wrote: in all honesty hours is not enough to get a model from agencies either. Agency models do cancel occasionally as well and even the top ten agencies are going to have a hard time getting a replacement that fast. Jan 08 07 05:08 pm Link How much did you offer to compensate him for the cost (out of pocket and opportunity cost) of the shoot you missed? He gave up a day to shoot with you, and lost the opportunity to schedule something else. Did he hire a makeup artist for the day? If so, she did the same. Did you offer to compensate her? If you had, I suspect the response from the photographer would have been less "rude". You told him the truth or you didn't. Neither he nor we know one way or the other. What you did not do is take away the burden you caused him because of the burden you said was on you. Jan 08 07 05:09 pm Link Primal Lens wrote: It's just so easy to say oh I had a family emergency.Plus some people use emergency lightly.Not just with photographers and models but with anyone like students or for work people lie about stuff like that.Now if they gave me an exact reason that'd be fine but I don't think saying oh an emergency calls for letting you reschedule.I wasn't trying to be rude and I wasn't saying you had to agree either.Obviously this photographer has similar feelings as me because he didn't want to reschedule either.Also your point about photographers.If a photographer told me only that he had a family emergency and didn't have an explaination I would suspect they were lying.That's just me and I'm not sorry if you don't like that. Jan 08 07 05:10 pm Link Miles Chandler wrote: yeah exactly what I was thinking Jan 08 07 05:12 pm Link I've always offered the opportunity for a reschedule as long as I get some kind of notice. Stuff happens. If it happens twice in a row with the same model I may or may not offer a reschedule depending on the reason and the timeliness (or lack there of) of the cancelation. Models that don't show and don't contact to cancel don't get invited back at a later date. That's just the way I work. I'm sure everyones mileage varies on this. Jan 08 07 05:12 pm Link Couture Imagery wrote: Well, I guess it depends where you are. London is the only place I've had the problem. And the agencies there don't like to help you until the last minute anyway. Jan 08 07 05:19 pm Link Well I have had two last minute cancelations, one e-mailed me ( even though she had my cell number) - said she had a family emergency and could not make it - it started with " I hope you get tihis in time!" Did not call me, so no re shoot! The second called me, told me the emergency and simply said " I am on my way to the shoot, but wanted you to know my mind may not be totally on what I am doing!" I canceled and set a new date for her!!! Jan 08 07 05:26 pm Link Anyone that has doen TFP work for very long has been burnt. (Photographer/MUA/Model). Its an unfortunate part of the territory. For me, they seem to go in spurts. Ill go 6 months with no trouble and then get 4 no shows in a row. Depending on the location and purpose of the shoot, it can cost anywhere from $0 to $500. That can become very frustrating very quickly. You probably just caught him after a few flakes......this may be the 4th Family emergency he's dealt with this week. Let it go and move on. It's always polite to leave a follow up Email to apologize again if you want to take the high road, but if he was rude then you may be better off just letting it go. Jan 08 07 05:28 pm Link Aaron S wrote: a day maybe, but just a couple hours is hard to swing especially if you are shooting on location in some place that is hard to find unless you know where you are going Jan 08 07 05:37 pm Link If he doesn't want to reschedule, it is his loss. You can never please everyone. Anyone can look at your portfolio and the people you have worked with and see that you are serious about your modeling. Hard to believe he could be rude about a cancellation call. Half the models I deal with are flaky, you just move on. Jan 08 07 05:37 pm Link Sometimes it's hard to remember that, while ten people may have flaked on you, this is the first time this llama has done it. It really can be - it just feels like "here we go again." This is why, when someone has called me in the past, I don't reschedule right away. I ask them to take care of their emergency and call me in a couple of days, when I'm a little less perturbed, and we can talk about a reschedule then. So maybe you might want to call him in a few days, once he's calmed down. Of course, everyone's different, and maybe this guy is a fool-me-once guy. It's understandable when money's at stake. A few years ago, after being burned too many times by the same people, I got like that. I'm more understanding now, because the last thing I want to do in a time of emergency is add more stress to someone's life. But I can understand his reaction. Unfortunately, all you can do is call one more time to apologize, see if he wants to reschedule, and move on if he doesn't. You'll not have trouble finding someone else to shoot with. Jan 08 07 05:43 pm Link skint lizard designs wrote: Or in the very least offer to shoot for twice as long with just as much compensation as was agreed to in the initial shoot. Thats about the only way that you can attempt to get back into his graces, if you still want to shoot with him. TXPhotog wrote: Oh bah... lighten up a little bit. Everyone has emergencies... and frankly, if I am in the middle of a serious family emergency all you're gonna get is a call. Once things settle down, then I'll be able to refocus enough to offer some form of compensation for your time. If its a real emergency though, compensating you for your effort is going to be the LAST thing on my mind. Jan 08 07 05:49 pm Link NC17 wrote: There is room for lots of doubt about this situation in particular, and Internet shoots in general. I don't think it would be at all wrong to suggest that things are often not as they are presented on the 'net, by models and photographers both. Jan 08 07 07:08 pm Link You're very right, TX, on all accounts. However, I guess I am a firm believer of simply giving people the benefit of the doubt from the getgo. I don't manage to get burned either. Sure I've had a couple flake photographers (three to be exact in about a year and 3/4), but I don't let that get me down. Thats where I believe the mistake comes with photographers, too many end up jaded, and its no one else's problem but their own. I can't help it if you've been cancelled on... whats that say about you? I also outlined how disappointing it is to have a cancellation. I did have one last year, and I was very upset as it was to be an overnight stay that I had made arrangements with friends to spend the night. So a lot of effort went into it on my part as well. Its terribly frustrating to deal with cancellations. But, just like the rest of the world, shit happens. I can't fault anybody for that, even if I am out a lot of effort and possibly money. Its my job at that point to get over it. How the person chooses to reapproach me is indicative of my interest in making plans a second time. Since I am generally on the recieving end of the money, I'm willing to try again. Were I on the paying end, if plans come together easily the second time, why not. If things don't seem to be coming together easily thats a red flag of warning. I just don't have the energy to waste being really harsh with people. Its not worth my effort, I have much better things to do than waste energy being upset and angery at people. I recently had to cancel a shoot due to the fact that my boyfriend got really sick very quickly. Shit happens. If others can't understand that, then thats their problem. If you end up getting flaked on too many times in a row its probably time to examine your target group and see if there is a problem, and do a better job of screening your potential models. I certainly hope that I do not become jaded as I age. If I do, I certainly hope I've got the brains to know that I need to make a change within myself to fix the situation. Jan 08 07 07:56 pm Link NC17 wrote: This is objectionable. You are making the fact that Internet models flake into a problem with me. I don't accept that for a minute. When a model approaches me for a shoot, we set it up as she agrees to, and she flakes, that says something about HER, and what it says is that I don't want to deal with her again. NC17 wrote: I don't have that energy either. And the solution is simple: when someone flakes, I wash my hands of them and move on with my life. I don't make anguished posts about it on Internet forums, I don't lose sleep. I do cut my losses. NC17 wrote: You have mischaracterized. I can understand it, I just don't want to deal with it. If your life is stuctured so that when something happens with your boyfriend, you cancel a shoot, that's up to you. It may be entirely reasonable. But it is also reasonable for me, should it happen to me, to not want to set something up with you again. NC17 wrote: I don't have a "target group". I don't spend much, if any, time recruiting models to shoot with, and am perfectly happy not to shoot for long, long periods. The vast majority of the time, when I shoot it is because someone has approached me. I am their target. NC17 wrote: Or, in the alternative, the brains not to blame the victim. Jan 08 07 08:08 pm Link Funny...as people sit here and debate this issue, NancyJ has seem to have lost interest a long time ago...Just a note of interest. Jan 08 07 08:22 pm Link NancyJ wrote: Not knowing all the specifics, since you asked for advice, my advice for the future would be this. If you knew in advance that the photographer would incur nonrefundable costs at his expense, and if this were a tfp and you had a family emergency or any other reason that would prevent you from showing up, tell him you will send him a reasonable payment for the inconvenience, and insist on it. Tell him or her that the check is going to be in the afternoon mail. Jan 08 07 08:29 pm Link skint lizard designs wrote: I had to read all the way down the first page before getting to the first logical response. Jan 08 07 08:29 pm Link skint lizard designs wrote: markcomp wrote: lol, I guess I missed that but my post was kinda similar Jan 08 07 08:33 pm Link StudioMona wrote: skint lizard designs wrote: lol, I guess I missed that but my post was kinda similar That's cause we think so much alike. Jan 08 07 08:38 pm Link NancyJ wrote: I would have been more than happy to reschedule you! Of course, you'd forfeit the deposit on the first shoot and would have to put a deposit down on the rescheduled shoot. This is business, not fun. Jan 08 07 08:47 pm Link skint lizard designs wrote: I don't think she is getting the answer she wants anymore. Jan 08 07 08:57 pm Link TXPhotog wrote: NC17 wrote: This is objectionable. You are making the fact that Internet models flake into a problem with me. I don't accept that for a minute. When a model approaches me for a shoot, we set it up as she agrees to, and she flakes, that says something about HER, and what it says is that I don't want to deal with her again. If the model approaches you, then yes, its all on her. If you approached the model, and repeatedly end up flaked upon, then its time to question your methods. This is more speaking in the generic you, not as in singular you alone, TX. TXPhotog wrote: NC17 wrote: You have mischaracterized. I can understand it, I just don't want to deal with it. If your life is stuctured so that when something happens with your boyfriend, you cancel a shoot, that's up to you. It may be entirely reasonable. But it is also reasonable for me, should it happen to me, to not want to set something up with you again. *shrugs* Its reasonable for you to say that, just as its reasonable for me to say that. However, family comes first... always. Money is never so important to me as to take care of my family. TXphotog wrote: NC17 wrote: I don't have a "target group". I don't spend much, if any, time recruiting models to shoot with, and am perfectly happy not to shoot for long, long periods. The vast majority of the time, when I shoot it is because someone has approached me. I am their target. Then obviously the above does not apply to you. Again, read generic you, not specific you. TXPhotog wrote: All too often in this lovely society of ours people take too little responsibility. I don't intend to let that happen to myself. I can never change the actions of others, but I can change myself. Change can include removing myself from the situation just as you have... though I still get a bitter edge to your frankness. Jan 08 07 09:26 pm Link I agree with everything TX has said, and I have a no re-schedule policy myself. No show once, likely no show ever... Jan 08 07 09:33 pm Link If you ask photographers models seem to be the most accident prone, sickest people on the planet, so it is only natural to doubt a cancellation based on accident, family emergency and illness. If I get a call or email I will usually reschedule once. I did have one model who did not call and was a no sho and was really in a serious auto accident ans about 4 months later I got an email explaining the situation and we had several shoots after that. Jan 08 07 09:41 pm Link |