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Typically date llamas, when they get too insecure its time for an upgrade to a newer llama Stephen Eastwood http://www.PhotographersPortfolio.com Jan 08 07 01:35 pm Link Kick her ass to the curb! Who is she to judge you or what you do? She's a g.f., not a wife. Tell her to get over it or get out. But say it respectfully of course Jan 08 07 01:37 pm Link Corey Wellman wrote: Thats why I kicked Corey to the curb he made me pick between models and him so... hello... bye Corey heheehehe (Rumor 2030393030 of MM Urban Legends this was an untrue statment do not quote me) Jan 08 07 01:43 pm Link ...you have to find someone who respects and values your talent and art. She's out there. Jan 08 07 01:45 pm Link will do my best to respond back on these as much as I can later as I am sneaking around here at work to do this..... I did mention to her about taking her to one of my shoots so she could see first hand what goes on....her reply was that she didn't think she could bring herself to do it as her insecurities would be so overwhelming, insecurities about her own looks and she comparing herself to the model. as I said will try to further in depth with my responses later when I get home. Jan 08 07 01:46 pm Link Eric Harrell wrote: I just started a relationship 6 months ago. I told her from the beginning that I am a glamour and fine art photographer who oft times shoot implied or nude models. I explained that it is just business, clinical even. It's my job. Jan 08 07 01:49 pm Link Eric Harrell wrote: The solution is soo simple...photograph male models instead heee heee Jan 08 07 01:53 pm Link Eric Harrell wrote: She has ISSUES you cannot help her with... you're the one who is in her bed not them so whats her complaint? She needs to get out of that... and being on the flip side of the coin yes men feel insecure too I've had men say "Why are you talking to him you must want him..." or "You have a lot of male model friends why would you want me..." Needless to say they were dumped no one has time for that melodrama lifes short... Jan 08 07 01:56 pm Link Hey Eric: I can truly empathize with what youâre going through. I posted a similar question in a forum last month, and I was bombarded with over thirteen (13) web-size pages of replies/comments/judgments, etc. I have read all of the replies you have received here, both pro and con, and I would just like to say this: Only YOU can decide what (or who) will make you truly happy, satisfied and complete. Believe in yourself and what youâre about, then attempt to help others feel the same way (or at least understand you better). I know my 2-cents worth may sound like a bit of a âcop-outâ but, I went through (30+) years of achievement(s), frustration, validation and explanation(s) â and I still remember who I am and what I want to do. Whatever you decide, I wish you the very best. Living my life âone frame at a timeââ Jay-Dub Jan 08 07 01:59 pm Link Eric Harrell wrote: insecurities are BOOOORING... so maybe she is too. Jan 08 07 02:09 pm Link Time for the Pot to call the Kettle Black... I recently(and when I say recently, I mean about 3 months back) ended a 5 year relationship. None of it had anything to do with my photography. In fact, I did the best that I could to include her in every aspect. After trying this for some time, I had to ask her not to be involved. Her own insecurities would make me uncomfortable when I was shooting. I just couldn't do it. And I refused to give up my camera. It really is a choice you have to make; don't do what I did. What I did: After ending a 5 year relationship, I was still living with her at the time. That is how I ended up in the state(literally and figuratively) that I am in now. I've just been asked, rather vehemently, to move out, and if I could I would in a heartbeat. Don't let this happen to you. Examine very carefully if you think it is worth it, if the time and effort you put into a relationship is going to be worth more to you, in the end, than your work. Jan 08 07 02:11 pm Link Easy: I only date men. ;-) Jan 08 07 02:13 pm Link Dont date jealous girls My friend who's a photographer ran into this problem with an off again, on again girl and it never would work.Sorry you're running into this though. Jan 08 07 02:15 pm Link Cuckoo Bird wrote: Smart man! Jan 08 07 02:16 pm Link Lady_Death wrote: haha men are more jealous than woman, although I doubt any of them would admit it. Jan 08 07 02:18 pm Link DHayes Photography wrote: I agree with this. My husband does photography and I model but when I can, I assist him. We are both just as interested in photography so it works. If she's involved she's less likely to have a problem with it. Jan 08 07 02:20 pm Link Corey Wellman wrote: I don't know my photogs has had the same man for six years and he's seen more arse from mine to every guys hes worked with then Tom Jones has had panties thrown at him and no jealousy there, and none of my other gay friends either... I have had jealous men but a good beating and they behave lol hehehehee. Jan 08 07 02:21 pm Link I've had the problem one too many times and I just give up... Date a model would probably work. Jan 08 07 02:25 pm Link Read between the lines dude. The type of photos you do are not appealing to women. It's a string bikini away from soft-porn. You're girlfriend does not like you worshiping bimbo types with rediculous fake tits and bleached blonde hair. It means she does not like your photography. She just doesn't want to tell you that. Jan 08 07 02:26 pm Link Brendan Fenn wrote: ...and there it is. My wife has blabbered under her breath about models i talk to and plan to shoot and so on... but she loves my work... a year or so later she doesn't open her mouth much with pointless complaining... my work is my work...and she enjoys it. Jan 08 07 02:32 pm Link ...with the exception of my McDonalds date lol I've got to see those golden arches haha Jan 08 07 02:33 pm Link Ya win some ya lose some.. Whats a guy to do? Put your camera away and become a Monk? Life is short in 30 years you will wonder why you made this stupid decision.. Try to figure it out now and save the years!! (:------- Hj Worshiping Bimbos...lol Jan 08 07 02:37 pm Link Eric Harrell wrote: I am too old for these kind of headaches. How about you? Jan 08 07 02:41 pm Link ward wrote: That was my solution, too. But now I'm seeing someone who is emotionally secure. No more problems. Jan 08 07 02:41 pm Link Brendan Fenn wrote: Them girls you are calling bimbos are usually pay site girls who actually do pay photogs and are happily married or have a boyfriend or girlfriend haha... the one in his port has a pay site and is happily married... everyone wants to make a buck, and some make damn good money owning a pay site but most break even unless they go hard core... heck look at Crissy Moran she quit the business and has now found god.. so anyone can change... and it's just hair and implants it's not who and what they are... most them are very faithful to their spouses or bf's or gf's... Jan 08 07 02:41 pm Link FKVPhotoGraphics wrote: These are very true words. I don't ask my wife to give up any of the things that make her happy, and she doesn't ask me to give up my pursuits. If the relationship is going to work, it has to be full acceptance of who you are, not change this or else! Jan 08 07 02:45 pm Link Lady_Death wrote: Or they kiss up to the photog to get free pics for their paysites been there done that... you have to constantly have new material up competition is fierce... glad I am done with that crap and moved on feel better and get paid 10 times more and not have anyone bother or harass me lol... and can work with quality photogs... its sad a lot of them girls do use photogs for their paysites... but thats life eh? Jan 08 07 02:45 pm Link Allen Coefield wrote: Still working my way through this thread, but I had to chime in: Jan 08 07 02:49 pm Link I shoot my girl all the time to keep things simple. Jan 08 07 02:49 pm Link It sounds like your girlfriend is insecure in general. You said before that she is in her 40s (like you). By this stage, she should be aware of herself and what she has to offer. You should, by no means, sacrifice what you love and your passion for that. It wont make her insecurity go away. If she cant handle what you do.. its sad, but you shouldnt be with her. People should be in each others lives to co-exist and understand one another. Not make what they love the reason to fight. Thats just my 2 cents.. Good luck Jan 08 07 02:49 pm Link Send your girlfriend to me for behavior modification. I'll return her to you unharmed and with a totally different attitude. Tell her to bring warm clothes. Jan 08 07 02:49 pm Link Primal Lens wrote: Actually, Yoko was a quite amazing artist herself and ahead of her time. Jan 08 07 02:54 pm Link I have a crazy idea.... let her read this forum!!! Let her see how everyone can see right through her bullshit and how pathetic she is acting.... and for nearly being 40?! wow, I've changed my entire perspective, I was unaware of any age, I was assuming she was in her 20'3 maybe early 30's and thought it was pathetic... but she's nearly 40? Wow, is there a word that surpasses pathetic? Jan 08 07 03:14 pm Link HAHAHA! Wow. This is exactly my predicament right now too. I've just turned 18 in November, and am willing to do partial nude, yet my boyfriend isn't comfortable with it, even if it's just for a portfolio. He doesn't want me going to photo shoots alone, he doesn't want me wearing anything too revealing... etc. It's horrible. My artistic creativity is stifled because of his self-esteem issues (and he has a much more public and artistic job than I do...). I'd say you need to explain that it's time you make a decision to her. It's an ultimatum, really. It's either she accept your work, or she takes her leave. You shouldn't have to make the decision because it's either your passion, or your love. It's her problem, so let her decide. I know it's probably not going to help much, but it's helped me. - Heather Jan 08 07 03:15 pm Link Brendan Fenn wrote: AGREED! After taking a look at your portfolio.... Jan 08 07 03:20 pm Link heatherlynneorr wrote: Heather I'd do a fine art nude shoot with you and not allow your lame b.f. and his insecurities to be there just to piss him off *^* Jan 08 07 03:20 pm Link Not only should photographers and models not date jealous people, NO ONE should. If she has probs with hot chicks now, where will it end? If you're working as a bank teller and there is a cute teller that works with you, do have to quit your job? Jan 08 07 03:23 pm Link NYPHOTOGRAPHICS wrote: DAMN, I should have thought of that before I got married. Almost 17 years of marriage now, and when I started working with Makes and Models magazine, there was a bit of consternation, but she understood. Jan 08 07 03:29 pm Link It would be much better to have your artistic freedom rather being always "watched over" or "control". I think she should respect your work and your artistic freedom. If she doesn't, don't worry, plenty fish around who care and respect about their partners. Good luck Jan 08 07 05:20 pm Link In talking with my girlfriend on the way home, she is taking the blame for her insecurities where my photography work is concerned and swore to me that she doesn't want to loose me......... I know she wants to build a life longrelationship with me, but like has been said before in this thread......if she can't come to grips with my work and realize that she is the one that I am with not the models, then I have to agree that it would only get worse as time goes by. She is always comparing herself to any model that she sees and is just having difficulty in accepting that a 40's yr. old ladie can't be a 20 yr. old again, have the looks, the body the whole package like she did when she was a 20 yr.old bombshell. Is dating models the answer??? In my tiny area of Tennessee that isn't as easy as it seems. I make a point to always treat the models who come to me for photos with the utmost respect and conduct myself in a professional manner and not really sure any of them would take it to weel if I started approaching them any other way. Would I date a model or someone in the industry somehow? A MUA, a model, another photographer? Yeah I guess I would because we would both have the understanding that work is work and personal is personal and both be able to seperate the two. So if this relationship doesn't work out hey is anyone available !!!!!!! I wish my own website wasn't in the mddle of a major overhaul with changing servers, webhosts and basically everything so people could see that I don't photograph only glamour models and T & A , but models for fashion, editorial photos and try to be a more well rounded photographer. Only time will tell what happens here but I do welcome more comments and I do appreciate all those that have taken the time to give me their opinions.... Thanks everyone !!! Jan 08 07 06:12 pm Link |