Images by Yancy wrote:
And I find this:

So I just got home from having the biggest fight with
my boyfriend. I'm devastated. He found out that I
hooked up with my ex before we got together, and I
broke his heart. I'm such an emotional mess, I' afraid
I may have to cancel with you. I'm just giving you a
heads up, because I doubt I'll sleep, and I'll look
like shit. OMG IM SO PISSED, you probably are too. But
please understand. He is the love of my life. Call me
in the morning k????

From the way she talks, that sounds like someone I'd definitely want to work with....................NOT

Images by Yancy wrote:
I know that this has been discussed ad nauseum but I had to vent.

Have been trying to work with this model for awhile and we finally got something set-up. It wasn't just me wanting to work with her - she was pushing to work with me.

I spent the evening prepping my equipment, packing accessories, talking with my MUA, and plotting out locations all the while setting up shots in my head.

Get up this morning, take myshower, prep my breakfast, pack my car and, almost as an after-thought, decide to check my e-mail.

And I find this:

So I just got home from having the biggest fight with
my boyfriend. I'm devastated. He found out that I
hooked up with my ex before we got together, and I
broke his heart. I'm such an emotional mess, I' afraid
I may have to cancel with you. I'm just giving you a
heads up, because I doubt I'll sleep, and I'll look
like shit. OMG IM SO PISSED, you probably are too. But
please understand. He is the love of my life. Call me
in the morning k????

Okay, so let me get this straight - you guys fought over something that happened BEFORE you got together?!?!

And, to be honest, who gives a shit?!?! Get over it and lets friggin work!!

Dammit, I hate when this kind of crap happens! But in reality, it's my bad. She's been flaky before but I thought we had worked it out. Now I'm sitting here with no one to shoot. AAAARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!!

Needless to say, I'll NEVER try to work with her again.

She should have called you.

You have no right to say "get over it".

You do have the right to be mad.

If she looks like hell and can't concentrate anyway, why would you want to shoot her? Sounds like a wasted day- move on and find a model that's free for today(or whenever this is for)

And do reply to her- I wouldn't call her as she didn't have enough respect to call you...email her- tell her you're upset with her- and that you can't work together with her without a deposit.

That'll take care of that.

GL

Images by Yancy wrote:
Needless to say, I'll NEVER try to work with her again.

I have missed dentist appointments, the dentist still cleans my teeth. Maybe the reason she gave is not the true one. Things happen. Like the old cliche, and since you are in SF, there will another MUNI along in 15 minutes.

Images by Yancy wrote:
"You have no right to say "get over it"."

You know, Daniela, I looked at this statement again and I'm a little torn. I know this is a serious matter for her and a part of me feels for her. On the other hand, we've all had to take some serious blows and still get up and go to work or take care of business.

So I guess my "get over it" comment is on a work level and not a personal one.

She got back home and wrote me this email at 1:45 am. I think she should've called. I've had long discussions with her and had given her my cell number, telling her that my number was for her to call 24/7.

UPDATE
As I was writing this, she called. She cried and moaned and told me about what happened (I'll spare you the juvenile bullshit details) and, hinking about you, Daniela, I lent a sympathetic ear. But the strange thing is: SHE NEVER ONCE APOLOGIZED FOR CANCELLING!!!

I can't believe it.

Anyway, I told her that, while I feel bad for her situation, I just can't work with her and would rather not in the future.

The worst thing is I don't have anyone to shoot as a back-up today.

Yes, a wasted day indeed!

I can understand you're being angry and not wanting to work with her again
and yes you should have been given a apology.  It sounds like she's very young
and often very young people have or cause or allow lots of drama.
You of course don't have to deal with it.  However.... some people have to try
and be a bit more flexible not that you weren't as she seems be making excuses
a pattern.  I thought this based on your comment about her being flakey before.
I have had models do the same and I collected a small deposit from them with
no problem.  That said, again I understand how you feel and your response was
the correct one for you.

RStephenT wrote:
You are dealing with young, fairly attractive people.  They always have relationship problems, they always seem to have drama in their lives.

so are you saying that other people don't have relationship problems, only young fairly attractive people?

and to the OP: at least she let you know instead of not showing up at all. Therefore: it could be worse.

Jessalyn_54 wrote:

so are you saying that other people don't have relationship problems, only young fairly attractive people?

and to the OP: at least she let you know instead of not showing up at all. Therefore: it could be worse.

Young people in general seem to have a lot of relationships issues, but it certainly is not limited to that one segment.  But it is a very common problem in that age group.

RStephenT wrote:
You are dealing with young, fairly attractive people.  They always have relationship problems, they always seem to have drama in their lives.  They also may be SCM's (So Called Models) who are just here for the ego trip and not much else.  Fliter thru to the good ones... they do exist and move on with a smile on your face.

"SCM"s" I like that one, particularly from a phonetic standpoint.   

g-man wrote:

"SCM"s" I like that one, particularly from a phonetic standpoint.   

Do you wanna know what's funny this is exactly how the initials GWC got started...

RStephenT wrote:
You are dealing with young, fairly attractive people.  They always have relationship problems, they always seem to have drama in their lives.  They also may be SCM's (So Called Models) who are just here for the ego trip and not much else.  Fliter thru to the good ones... they do exist and move on with a smile on your face.

Thanks Stephen, you just coined a term: SCM, how do you pronounce SCM?

Meela wrote:
A true professional does not cancel due to something of this nature. Will she be tired if she is unable to sleep of course...will she look like "shit" due to the lack of sleep.....possibly. However a model must learn to ACT....yes act....as well as pose in order to get through these types of situations.

Also, you stated she flaked on you once before. At least you had given her a second chance...which you didn't have to do. She should have showed up ready to work. Then once the job was done.....did whatever it was she felt she had to do to make things right in her personal life.

To the models (not everyone...only to those it applies...you know who you are): Modeling is a JOB...a CAREER for some. You must treat it as one.

Meela

...................

THANK YOU THANK YOU, THANK YOU!

I just had the same happen to me a week ago....and got the "heads up" via email, written at 3:45a,.  Of course the shoot had been scheduled for almost 5 days, I'm up the morning the email was received - BUT ONLY 'TIL FRIGGIN' 2:30am!....

....so I didn't "get it" until about 11am....for a 1pm scheduled meeting!

WTF?

ps:  I agreed to waive MY FEES....for you!  When you cancel like that, you've wasted my opportunity to have scheduled a paying gig instead.  Or any gig...because I was COUNTING ON YOU BEING A PROFESSIONAL.

Got it "models"?

dfstudios wrote:
Thanks Stephen, you just coined a term: SCM, how do you pronounce SCM?

I'm not sure I should answer that...  maybe SC*M... I'll let you fill in the vowel... gasp.

Or maybe just called them SCM's and leave it at that.