HurtMeSo wrote:
I told him I was not very comfy (he wants to shoot at his place) so he told me I could bring someone with me, who wouldnt stay during the shoot (which i understand) and would pick me up.

wow, dude.... my escorts Always stay the whole time... not anywhere in the way of course, but close enough to save my dumbass from the model serial killer...

JAY carreon wrote:
If you really want to show him you mean business, bring a Ziqriat 65 caliber machinegun!

JAY carreon
PHOTOGRAPHER

I'm sorry I have to disagree. The machine gun is way too bulky. A few grenades can fit snuggly in the average size lady's purse.

Class Act Photography wrote:

I'm sorry I have to disagree. The machine gun is way too bulky. A few grenades can fit snuggly in the average size lady's purse.

yeah, but how many models do you know that can run fast enough away to not blow herself up?

SsinUrn wrote:

yeah, but how many models do you know that can run fast enough away to not blow herself up?

I guess you have a point there. Maybe an electric taser would get the job done.

exposurefoto wrote:
Why don't you meet with him over a cup of coffee first. If he's professional, he'll understand. Ask to see his portfolio etc etc...That is usually the ice breaker before a shoot. Speak up!!!
I don't want to see a post from you after the day of the shoot "Why a photog was only interested in sex". We have enough of those....right???

Fire yeah, Fire Yeah, Yeah, Yeah...Fire !!!

Far West Imaging wrote:
I recommend you never shoot with anyone who won't let the escort stay.  They should be someone who won't interfere with the shoot, of course, and should be told that before the shoot.

thank you! thought i was alone up there

glenn usdin wrote:
you might consider changing your online name...just a dumb thought. The name sounds a bit inviting to those seeking darker pleasures.

but if it doesnt feel right, just dont do it and move on to the next one.

Well, if by "darker pleasures" you mean fetish, that's what I'm aiming at. ^^

Anyway I've always been lucky to work with photographers who were smart enough to 1) understand it is a 2nd degree thing or 2) wonder where it came from.

It's like saying photographers working with Industrial Bitch could think she's an actual bitch. Or something. ^^

Anyway I've been modeling under that name for a year and I'm not going to start from scratch again because of a dumbass (which he might not be).

Thanks for the advice anyway.

Kelly Kooper wrote:
Sounds like an experience you could probably live without.

You're right. I think I'm going to pass this time.

exposurefoto wrote:
Why don't you meet with him over a cup of coffee first. If he's professional, he'll understand. Ask to see his portfolio etc etc...That is usually the ice breaker before a shoot. Speak up!!!

Err... I've done that this morning.
"I first met a photographer this morning who wants to shoot with me."
He seemed rather uncomfy and didnt bring his port, which I found rather suspicious.

Neverming, I'll pass.

theglorybox wrote:
Whats this photog name.....

Well he's french, I can PM you his name but I'm not giving it here.

John Jebbia wrote:
Why would a photographer harm you knowing there is someone who knows where he lives? Someone who could easily lead the police to him?

Because he's a psycho?

SsinUrn wrote:
wow, dude.... my escorts Always stay the whole time... not anywhere in the way of course, but close enough to save my dumbass from the model serial killer...

ditto.  even and especially professional photographers NEVER EVER EVER have a problem with someone staying.

think of it this way - when an advertising company HIRES a photographer to shoot for them, they are in the room, as well as makeup artists, stylists, assistants, etc...and the photographer is still able to capture a good image.

if this photographer can't do it - if he thinks you'll "be distracted" - WHATEVER - ditch him.  it's worse to be uncomfortable than distracted. 

C R Photography wrote:
Don't trust the French and most of all don't trust French Photographers

You do know the OP is French?

John Jebbia wrote:
Why would a photographer harm you knowing there is someone who knows where he lives? Someone who could easily lead the police to him?

Who says he lives there? It could be someone elses house

HurtMeSo wrote:
Because he's a psycho?

With your name, you should show up with the entire family.

Far West Imaging wrote:
I recommend you never shoot with anyone who won't let the escort stay.  They should be someone who won't interfere with the shoot, of course, and should be told that before the shoot.

Escorts make great voice controlled reflector holders... in other words... free labor

SsinUrn wrote:
thank you! thought i was alone up there

No SsinUrn, I also agree completely. It think it reasonable for the photographer to ask that an escort be waiting in the reception area (with connecting doors open, etc.), or a little ways off if outdoors, but within reasonable distance for the model's security and piece of mind. I'm always amazed when some professionals don't seem to understand the quality that will be added to a model's work just by letting her (or him) be comfortable in the setting in this manner.

That said, there can be a problem with "escorts" who need to be on set at all times. Sure, maybe the model is used to having them around and so does not find them distracting, but what about the photographer??? Throwing the photographer off their game doesn't help produce the best images either... and hence, as noted above, my choice of present but not hovering.

And just to return to the OP, no, in your shoes I wouldn’t do this shoot. There are only so many chances that are worth taking, and this doesn't sound like one of them.

—Jonathan

J S Marion Photography wrote:

That said, there can be a problem with "escorts" who need to be on set at all times. Sure, maybe the model is used to having them around and so does not find them distracting, but what about the photographer??? Throwing the photographer off their game doesn't help produce the best images either... and hence, as noted above, my choice of present but not hovering.

—Jonathan

Did that once,  she would turn and ask the guy if each pose was OK.

Never,never , never again!