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People that don't read a member's profile....
I've been a member of MM for the last couple of weeks and I am noticing an increasing number of members that contact me for the wrong reasons or purpose... I am wondering what's so hard about taking 5 seconds reading my first paragraph saying I'm not here for dating/relating, and what's so evil about scrolling down to find out that I don't do nudes, glamour lingerie/swimwear playboy-maxim-fhm style? What's up with this photographer that I thought was initially talented and professional that started sending me personal vacation photos and asking me if I have a bf, that his lovers are Asians? Did I not say I'm not here for dating and relating, in fact I am a newly-wed? Or do I need to explain that on my profile to shoo away these ppl? What's up with these photographers asking me to pose glamour/maxim lingerie? Didn't I say I don't do that type of modeling? What's up with these random fetish/special interests/goth/nude photographers trying to add me as a friend, no matter how many times I decline? and yes I decline when I don't see why he would be interested in becoming my "friend" IF he had only read my PROFILE! I have so many "friends" already... and most of them I went and found, and requested as friends because I had a work interest or I liked that person's portfolio. Perhaps they simply like my portfolio but I consider "friends" feature as a networking tool and I just don't see any connection with these photographers, ESPECIALLY when they don't leave any tag, comment, or message. I think a profile says A LOT about that person. Seriously, people... stop being lazy and read the profile!!!! and leave a tag or something if you wanna be friends with that person! Jul 15 05 05:37 am Link I say post the names and MM # of anyone that has such trouble reading so the others that can read and are decent people will know whom to be on the look out for. And don't worry about pissing anyone off, remeber, they can't read. It makes it harder for any newbie thats looking for a photographer to get a fair shake when someone turns stalker or insta-perve when they answer an email with a shoot offer. Things that make you say "get a rope" Craig Jul 15 05 05:50 am Link Um...how about dinner and a movie Saturday nite? Jul 15 05 05:53 am Link ya, I initially had my AIM on my profile, now I removed it cuz I don't want more random photographer-really-an Asian fetish to contact me for something totally unrelated to a shoot. Jul 15 05 06:05 am Link Maybe you should ask Tyler to change your id, Luvbrace conjurs up images a leather strap thingy that spreads your legs and keeps you fixed there while you a receive a good "you-know-whatting". This might be giving the perves the wrong idea? Jul 15 05 06:33 am Link Posted by StudioGuru: I was actually thinking about that... although that wasn't the intended meaning of my username at all (believe it or not it was a title of a lovesong in Japan some 10 years ago). You know what, I think I'm sold on your input, I think I will go ask Tyler to have it changed and see what happens! : P Jul 15 05 06:39 am Link There are profiles on here? I thought it was only pics....... Hmmmmm. Must look again..... Ok. seriously, It is because you are unlike 80% of the other models that state 'I don't do nudes' (if you look in their profile, they did them / do them / screen with that statement. Do not take offense to it. Personally, I think you should be flattered that so many horny men... I mean photographers want to get you nekkid, I mean photograph you nude. :-) I also agree with Belair. Your profile say nothing about not doing a dinner and a movie... I guess it is fair game to ask :-P Ok. I am being facetious. Luvbrace (I like that name, Keep it please!) you have to take the good with the bad. Not everyone here is illiterate. You just seem to have attracted a major bunch. Give it a month or two and they will move on. Probably to Reese since she has been so quiet. Ohm The Asian Fetish thing.... What is up with that? Why is it all us guys have a thing for Asian women? I could never explain it myself. Maybe you could :-) Do not take life seriously......... Jul 15 05 06:45 am Link Posted by luvbrace: will u b my friend? I'm a random fetish, special interest, goth nude photographer looking for the same.... Jul 15 05 06:45 am Link Hahaha >Ty Yea I know, this Asian fetish thing... what is this? Well, actually, I heard of this theory that actually seems correct to me... Asians (not so much asian americans but asians from asia) tend to be more accepting/open to geekiness. LOL. I'm not saying "geek" in a bad way, but Asians tend to welcome animation-geeks, book worms, photo-geeks, car geeks... cuz that's not a wierd thing at all in our culture. Hence if you look around, so many film industry/photographers/CG artists etc with Asian girlfriends or wives.... I've recently shot stuff like no-shirt, just denim jacket, or bikini-top with denims, or technically topless but completely covered up type stuff, but they are still strictly hi-fashion/editorial/beauty. No squishing breasts together half mouth opened or I'm posing doggy style on a fluffy bed type stuff, if you know what I mean? LOL Not that that's bad, and not that Fetish/bondage is bad, I give all my respects to those that shoot it or pose for it, it's just not my style or preference. PS I'd gladly go out to dinner with anyone if you wanna get to know me and my HUSBAND. hahaha Jul 15 05 07:03 am Link Posted by luvbrace: Here we go with the Escort thing again.... Jul 15 05 07:13 am Link Posted by Ty Simone: Posted by luvbrace: Here we go with the Escort thing again.... SEE?! Asian - Geek connection confirmed!!! Jul 15 05 07:26 am Link well, If we did go to dinner, I would be obligated to bring my redheaded wife.... I guess that means we have something in common :-P Jul 15 05 07:32 am Link Ok Dinner on me, El Capricorno's, Old town, Swindon, Wiltshire, for you and your husband, Just name your evening. BTW did you know that orthodox Catholics are offended by the Goth Look? Jul 15 05 07:39 am Link Posted by luvbrace: A picture worth a 1,000 words. I judge what a model will and won't do by the photos. Jul 15 05 07:44 am Link Posted by luvbrace: No squishing breasts together half mouth opened or I'm posing doggy style on a fluffy bed type stuff, if you know what I mean? OMG, that's so hilarious! "squishing breasts together half mouth opened posing doggy style on a fluffy bed" should be an official "modeling category" on OMP! Right next to "casual" hahaha. Or is it already listed there? Jul 15 05 07:45 am Link Posted by Aaron_H: On the internet, that's what passed for glamour. Jul 15 05 09:44 am Link I am not so sure where the problem is... Well... I do understand, I state clearly that I don't have time for TFP's and I am still contacted for such freebees. So, I know where you are coming from. Usually I respond with a brief note and point to the fact that I don't do TFP's. In the case you describe, you seem to be in a constant correspondence with him. Just write you don't want to have any further contact. Now... THEDA, REESE, TYLER... I think an individual IGNORE function could be cool. A box that can be checked and unchecked and no emails will come through into the mailbox from a banned member. That member just receives and automated reply such as "Sorry, this member has chosen not to accept any messages from you at this time. Hopefully you find other members that are interested to have contact with you." Jul 15 05 09:53 am Link You put the profile there so they can read it, if they dont its not your fault. You put certain things in the profile that you will not do, if they read that wrong it is not your fault. If you get "Requests" thru "Other" means of contacting you, they are not professional. In any of these case's the person can be reported as harrassing you to the web site owner (Tyler in this case), or one of his Moderators (Theda - the only one i have seen on here). Get the persons info and relay that to them and they will do something about it. This is not a site for soliciting prostitutes or getting dates. All this type of actions do is give the intended a reason to say "The site is not properly managed and i was solicitied countless times for sex thru the site", which in turn is not good exposure for the site or its future. Jul 15 05 09:56 am Link Posted by Udo R Photography: Don't blame me and reese... All site coding s Tyler's fault. However, we have a block feature that prevents messages from going through from blocked members. Jul 15 05 09:58 am Link Posted by Peter Dattolo: Hmmm... I wish I would be in the position that I could complain that I am being constantly solicited for sex by some model. Jul 15 05 09:59 am Link Posted by theda: Posted by Udo R Photography: Don't blame me and reese... All site coding s Tyler's fault. However, we have a block feature that prevents messages from going through from blocked members. Dear sweet Theda! Jul 15 05 10:02 am Link Posted by Sascha: It's not the fact that people don't read, it's the fact that can't read. Jul 15 05 11:03 am Link Posted by Ty Simone: It's called MEN WHO EAT RICE Jul 15 05 01:14 pm Link Posted by KM von Seidl: Posted by Ty Simone: It's called MEN WHO EAT RICE Usually only Fat ugly white chicks think that. Jul 15 05 01:21 pm Link Posted by KM von Seidl: You know, it's actually interesting, I am a martial artist for over 30 years, and in connection with that, I learned a lot about Eastern philosophy and culture. So much, that I even gave a lecture about Eastern Philosophy and Martial Arts at a college here in NYC. Jul 15 05 01:23 pm Link Posted by marksora: Posted by KM von Seidl: Posted by Ty Simone: It's called MEN WHO EAT RICE Usually only Fat ugly white chicks think that. If you're talking about the men who eat rice comment I heard both that and the analysis from my Asian housemate, who although she is a chick is neither fat ugly or white. Jul 15 05 01:29 pm Link Must be awful to be attractive and have people interested in going out with you. Oh, the tortures of a models life. You're all enduring the torments of Auschwitz survivors, aren't you? Jul 15 05 01:40 pm Link To be fair to the users of the friend feature... Someone may not *yet* have the kinds of images you do in their portfolio, and would like to make a connection with you precisely for that reason. I am a liberal user of the friend button. If this were like omp where I could privately bookmark someone until I can get back to them and write a nice note, I would, but as it is I pop over a friend request so I don't lose them back into the pool. It's not a pervy thing, it's an indication of interest. I always read a model's profile, from beginning to end, and take what they've said into consideration before contacting them. If someone says they don't want to work with short fat white amateur female photographers who also model, I won't contact them. Mostly, I'm flexible, because I'm *so* new that I'm happy to try a lot of different things, so most models' paramaters are fine by me. There might be more of that out there than you're allowing for. I hope people aren't assuming weird things about me because I'm sending a friend request! Eep. S. Jul 15 05 01:48 pm Link Posted by Eric Muss-Barnes: LOL. Jul 15 05 01:59 pm Link Sita you read the whole port? Is there more after the photo section? Jk Jul 15 05 02:10 pm Link Posted by KM von Seidl: Posted by marksora: Posted by KM von Seidl: Posted by Ty Simone: It's called MEN WHO EAT RICE Usually only Fat ugly white chicks think that. If you're talking about the men who eat rice comment I heard both that and the analysis from my Asian housemate, who although she is a chick is neither fat ugly or white. Asian women are not submissive. That's an incorrect stereotype. Jul 15 05 02:12 pm Link Posted by Sascha: OMG don't get me started on that. I had alot of photographers/managers using my yahoo/aim for the same purposes! I'm taking mine off right now too. Thanx for reminding me Sascha! Jul 15 05 02:14 pm Link Posted by Eric Muss-Barnes: Sorry, but I agree with the poster here. Professional photographers, hell, professional ANYTHING should not be hitting on models and asking them out on dates, how juvenile is that? Go to a freakin online dating service! Its horny jerkoffs like that who give honest and straightforward photogs like the rest of us a bad name and make alot of models and potential models very hesitant. Jul 15 05 02:15 pm Link Mr Bell? The homing pigeon ankle braclet is done. I barely got all the words on, so i removed one word. Now instead of saying "I want you baby", it just says " I want you". I hope this is still ok? You forgot homing pigeon and snail male in that post. Jul 15 05 02:34 pm Link Posted by XtremeArtists: Posted by KM von Seidl: Posted by marksora: Posted by KM von Seidl: Posted by Ty Simone: It's called MEN WHO EAT RICE Usually only Fat ugly white chicks think that. If you're talking about the men who eat rice comment I heard both that and the analysis from my Asian housemate, who although she is a chick is neither fat ugly or white. Asian women are not submissive. That's an incorrect stereotype. I'd tend to agree with that. But there seems to be that perception. Before there were Russian mail order brides it was Asian mail order brides. I remember seeing a documentary on it, and in it they asked the guys, why Asian women, what's wrong with non-Asians, and the guys were pretty honest about wanting women that knew their place, took care of their man, submissive, etc. Jul 15 05 02:43 pm Link Posted by KM von Seidl: Posted by XtremeArtists: Posted by KM von Seidl: Posted by marksora: Posted by KM von Seidl: Posted by Ty Simone: It's called MEN WHO EAT RICE Usually only Fat ugly white chicks think that. If you're talking about the men who eat rice comment I heard both that and the analysis from my Asian housemate, who although she is a chick is neither fat ugly or white. Asian women are not submissive. That's an incorrect stereotype. I'd tend to agree with that. Well, we'll have to find something to disagree on. ;-) Jul 15 05 02:48 pm Link Posted by MichaelBell: Well Michael; Jul 15 05 02:49 pm Link Posted by KM von Seidl: Posted by Ty Simone: It's called MEN WHO EAT RICE My brother-out-law is convinced the phenomenon is related to latent homosexuality. It's no less ridiuclous than the submissive asian female theory. Jul 15 05 02:52 pm Link Posted by Udo R Photography: Posted by MichaelBell: Well Michael; That is not what I meant, that is all fine and good. What I was refering to (and what the poster was as well) is photogs who contact a model for the sole purpose of asking them if they are single or if they want to go out. Are they contacting them for business or for a date? I can pretty much guarantee most models looking for work do not want some photog she doesnt know messaging her and asking her personal questions that really have nothing to do with BUSINESS. Sounds like some people are treating this like some kind of dating service, I'm just saying to show a little respect. Jul 15 05 03:04 pm Link Posted by theda: Let me know if you feel ill again. Maybe I can help. Jul 15 05 03:05 pm Link |