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Deathly shyness....
...the photographer's dark secret? I'm painfully shy. Discussion? -Don Jan 10 06 08:47 pm Link Be yourself and have as much as you can no matter how shy you are at the time of the shoot or what not. Sooner or later that shyness will finally disappear when working with models (and meeting new people) in the future. Jan 10 06 08:49 pm Link Donley? is that you, Donley?  Jan 10 06 08:53 pm Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: me too. aren't we cute. ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha Jan 10 06 08:54 pm Link IsabelAurora wrote: I think...yes...it was high school where it all started. The taunting. Pretty girls making fun of me. Oh, the horror...the memories... Jan 10 06 08:55 pm Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: And it really shows in face-to-face meetings. Jan 10 06 08:56 pm Link I'm not shy. I have a massive inferiority complex. Or is that the same thing? Jan 10 06 08:57 pm Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: OMG...Don this is too dayum funny!!! Jan 10 06 09:03 pm Link I'm pretty shy too. It's not a bad thing, especially if you are aware of it.  Jan 10 06 10:03 pm Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: Stop inducing flashbacks, dammit! Jan 10 06 10:08 pm Link who cares if you are shy, your models are not, and that is what counts!!! Jan 10 06 10:12 pm Link who cares if you are shy, your models are not, and that is what counts!!! Jan 10 06 10:16 pm Link I worked with a photographer who was really shy and it put a lot of pressure on me to get the model comfortable. I tend to be shy when I first meet people but once I'm comfortable with them, I open up. I guess the best way to combat shyness is to get your mind off yourself and focus on your model. Ask her questions about her work, her hobbies, or whatever. Talk about TV, movies, anything. I don't want to promote alcohol, but in worse case scenerio, have a glass of wine before the shoot...its relaxing. Remember...I said a glass...not a bottle...lol. Hope that helps.Jan 10 06 10:27 pm Link I am not shy, but i cant pee in front of people. Jan 10 06 10:34 pm Link It is always so interesting to me to see how many photographers who give off this big, fearless aura online really are quiet and bashful in person. I think it's cute. It says to me that who that person is, is really close to the surface, so they gotta be careful not to get trampled on. Once someone like that trusts you, magic things happen between model and photographer. Jan 11 06 12:59 am Link used to be shy in my youth, took assertiveness training ,it works. Jan 11 06 01:00 am Link You should try to work with a pro model that really scares the hell out of you after this, you will be ready for everything! My personal experience went like this, booked a pro Playboy/Pentahouse model for the usual nude shots, did not sleep at all the night before the shooting because I was afraid I wasn't up to the task, and after this, she came... God only knows how I was TERRIFIED taking the photo... but, to my surprise, she was a nice person, funny and not boring. The dumb one was me, that still being shocked, formatted a CF with picture not yet transfered !  Then after that day, you can tell me that I may be working with an hollywood actress that I don't mind Jan 11 06 01:16 am Link Shyly wrote: I could swear that you're talking about me. Jan 11 06 04:57 am Link Becoming a cook and having to deal with customers and such on a daily basis really got me over my shyness about 15 years ago. The more you have to deal with people the less shy you should be over time. Jan 11 06 04:59 am Link So am I, at times. Go figure. Jan 11 06 10:59 am Link theda wrote: And then there is that bridge you are trying to sell. Jan 11 06 11:15 am Link I think I'm sometimes shy, but people don't believe me when I tell them that... Jan 11 06 11:17 am Link Iâm shy as well, but thatâs why I bought a camera to hide behind. Jan 11 06 11:18 am Link For the most part, I'm laid back, and sometimes a little boistrous, but last night, I was at Best Buy, and the girl at the CS desk helping us was so cute, had a great smile, and interacted really well with the people she was working with, and I wanted to ask her if she'd thought about modeling, but I completely choked! I couldn't even bring myself to get my wallet with my business cards out. Maybe that's shyness at self promotion, or maybe I have a secret shyness that no one knows about. *shhh, don't tell!* I think being shy is very cute in a guy. My hubby used to be SO introverted; the sterotypical computer programmer. It's so attractive to think that there's something else underneath that you/they are hiding.  Jan 11 06 01:13 pm Link I was painfully shy until I got conned into being the extemporaneous speaker for our high school speech team. We were given a topic to speak on when we arrived at the meet and had 1 hour to prepare a speech to be given in front of 20-60 people. I was terrible, but I knew that this was probably one of the worst public speaking situations I could ever be in. I came out of it much more confident in myself. Wouldn't recommend it for everyone, though.. Jan 11 06 01:15 pm Link Oh, this is only about shyness and not other "dark secrets"? Cool. I didn't want to have to reveal where the bodies were buried. Jan 11 06 02:30 pm Link I have a pretty outgoing personality, but I used to be very shy about meeting new people. Before I graduated from school and started networking and going on job interviews I would get really nervous about things like making phone calls or setting up meetings. In fact, the whole first year I was doing photography I never shot any people because I was too shy to set up meetings with models. So I guess, I wouldn't say I'm a shy person, but I have my shy moments. Jan 11 06 02:45 pm Link Shyly wrote: Shyly you could never be MORE right than that....Unfortunately the model I had this relationship with, I no longer work with.. Jan 11 06 02:53 pm Link Brian Diaz wrote: Hmm..Brian I feel ya..that is me described to the tee!!! Except I am scorpio... Jan 11 06 02:54 pm Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: funny. that makes most people turn into psycho killers, not photographers.... Jan 11 06 02:56 pm Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: Wait a minute... that wasn't when I was in high school. That was this morning! Jan 11 06 02:58 pm Link I shoot with shy photographers all the time. Just don't be afraid to make suggestions-- quiet is one thing, but we really do need to know when a chunk of hair is doing something weird, or we're posing in a way that causes unsightly things to happen. :p Jan 11 06 03:17 pm Link Dee wrote: Me too. A very shy Scorpio. Jan 11 06 06:04 pm Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: OMG YOU ARE SO DANGEROUS Jan 11 06 06:08 pm Link Scorpios are my favorite sign....and my specialty is shy ones. However, back to topic....I think that almost all of us that are bigmouths (fastfingers? what is the literary version...i forget) online are quite a bit shyer in person. It is actually quite funny. If you took all the most loquacious (there, found the word) people on this site and stuck them in a room together, there would be a huge uncomfortable silence....until someone brought out a lot of liquor. lol. My problem is that I am uncomfortable until I can align myself with people (usually a few hours to a few days) and until then i am a nervous talker. I manage to make myself sound like a much freakier person than I am. Really I am pretty normal. But my belief is the biggest posters are the biggest nerds..... Jan 11 06 06:11 pm Link Lapis wrote: Screw you! It's not true! It's not... Jan 11 06 11:15 pm Link I'm perfectly fine when it comes to work situations. When I have to be professional I remember that I'm there for a reason and that's what gets me through. Outside of that type of situation I've had to work really hard to cure my shyness. I hit my height really early and got picked on alot at school by classmates and at home by my mom and didn't become more comfortable with it until a few years ago. I still have days though were the thought of being around new people terrifies me. Jan 11 06 11:26 pm Link Dee wrote: I can totally relate to this - I think I have some form of social anxiety. But tis getting easier to deal with new people and situations the more I have to do that sort of thing. But I can totally relate to hoping someone would cancel before a shoot; I've had that experience many a time. With me, I'm so paranoid about doing a crappy job as a photographer I get nervous now mostly because of that. And if I get a paying client I'm extremely nervous before, during and after a photo session. Hopefully that will get easier to deal with too... Maybe I should switch to product photography Jan 12 06 12:22 am Link theda wrote: Yeah, we have evidence in the Star Trek thread. Jan 12 06 02:02 pm Link D. Brian Nelson wrote: Could'a fooled me, Don! : D Jan 12 06 03:16 pm Link |
